03-14-2015, 02:22 AM
I've been in a relationship with the best guy ever for two and a half years now, but for a year we've only been having sex once a week or sometimes once every two weeks; sometimes once a month. He's never excited about sex, EVER. He'll get horny for oral and kissing, but never sex. I'm always the one prompting him to have sex, and I know if I don't say anything I would never have sex again. His reason, and I've asked him multiple times, is that he doesn't like all the cleaning a bottom has to do before sex. He says it takes too long and he'd rather not do it. But I feel like that's just an excuse to not do it with me because I'm doing something wrong. I've asked him to be honest, but I feel like he's holding back. If cleaning is his only reason, I'm stuck. I respect him not wanting to have sex, I can't force him, but I would think my boyfriend would want to have sex on a regular basis.
I constantly get jealous of hearing about my friends' latest sexual ventures, or how many times they've had sex in a day or in a week. I don't know what to do. I've tried to do so many romantic things, but he doesn't feel inclined to have sex, even when I tell him he doesn't have to clean himself. Maybe he's doing something wrong? I don't know. Do bottoms really avoid sex because they have to clean themselves? Is this a real excuse? Because right now I'm always always always horny for sex and I never seem to get it, even when I'm promised it.
I feel like there's something wrong with me-that I'm inadequate. Or that he's lusting over different people. It's driving me crazy! I would never think about breaking up with him over this, I just want to get him excited about sex that way I am.
I constantly get jealous of hearing about my friends' latest sexual ventures, or how many times they've had sex in a day or in a week. I don't know what to do. I've tried to do so many romantic things, but he doesn't feel inclined to have sex, even when I tell him he doesn't have to clean himself. Maybe he's doing something wrong? I don't know. Do bottoms really avoid sex because they have to clean themselves? Is this a real excuse? Because right now I'm always always always horny for sex and I never seem to get it, even when I'm promised it.
I feel like there's something wrong with me-that I'm inadequate. Or that he's lusting over different people. It's driving me crazy! I would never think about breaking up with him over this, I just want to get him excited about sex that way I am.