Leather

[LJay]

Had to wonder about the lady who showed up at the grocery afer church this past Sunday. Completely black leather outfit from tailored skirt to neatly fit top and coat. I wonder which church she attends.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Ehhh he hasn't said. Tho I don't know how I could be passive if I'm the top...

Dominant tops is pretty easy to figure out, Submissive tops are often under reported and no one knows what they are supposed to do.

Assuming your BF wants you to submit to his will, then there will be pretty much all of the verbal play of submitting to him, while he pretty much orders you to please him.

(pause here for a cool off period).

I assume that the harness is the opening move toward BDSM play. Mind there is a whole slew of activities which do not need 'master/slave' type roles.

Leather in and of itself is hot - the smell, the look, the feel - even in vanilla 'love making' sex a bit of leather being worn by one or both can make things hotter.

I strongly suggest that you and your BF have an honest sit-down heart to heart about where this harness is leading us (you and him = us).

IF he is looking for kink and play, then I strongly suggest you two both do real research in what BDSM is about, and figure out what it is you both want and do not want from your sessions.

BDSM is all about the communication. Porn Videos fail miserably to cover the hard basics of communication that goes on before scene. There has to be a high level of trust and communication between the individuals involved BEFORE the sex starts.

If pain is going to be used in any of this, then there is also medical science to take into account. Brain chemicals are released with pain (even minor pain) which in the hands of a well trained Dom can send a sub into a state called 'flying' which must ALWAYS be finished with a period of after care.

https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=BDSM+flying covers that in various sites.

As for the personality you adopt - I bet you already have that personality and that his desire is to enhance that in you by the outfit you wear. Sex is visual, scent, sound, sensations... The biggest sex organ is the brain - and all of this sensory input and Output heightens the experience for both.

I suspect that if you are a real Dom it will rise to the surface when you don the harness.

I would lastly suggest that if there is an interest in master/slave BDSM type play that you two sit down and do watch a couple three BDSM porn movies together and focus on the script as in the verbal aspect to get a better idea of what the attitude is. I would, however, strongly urge you to not leap into the hard core BDSM activities.

[TwisttheLeaf]

He's not asking you to be someone else. He's asking you to decorate your body in a bit of leather while you fuck.