Leather

[Conrad]

Hey guys!

Advice plzzzz. So my boyfriend has said it would be really hot if I wore a leather harness during sexy times. Which ofc I'll do for him...I just wonder what sort of personality should I have when I wear it? Any tips to make it sexy for him....

I have attached a photo of the harness I ordered...I'm a 100% top btw.

Thanks!

[East]

My advice...keep it real. Find the inner "master" in you...and let it rock. Never force it...if you let it out...it will flow...and come naturally.

Hint: Sometimes less is more.

Have fun!

[Borg69]

Does he want you to be passive or aggressive ??? Dominant or submissive?

[Conrad]

Ehhh he hasn't said. Tho I don't know how I could be passive if I'm the top...

[Borg69]

In that case, put a collar and leash on him while you wear the harness. The roles will flesh themselves out on their own.

[VirgoMasquerade]

There a guide floating around tumblr for safe practicing of bdsm and other kinky things

[East]

Domination and submission is about trust on any level so in order to have that...it is important to be authentic and tuned in to your partner....

It is like a dance..they will let you know where they want to go...you just have to pay attention. You need to be able to lead..and to follow..at the same time...

[matty7]

ill be honest - ive never got the leather thing, expect for riding motor bikes ....its no different to me than saying put on this santa clause suit cos I want you big time ..its dress up but not sure why it has to be leather ....guess if I tried it i would get it !!!

[Bricg1970]

Just be you, let yourself go, submission and dominance will flow, only don't over do it

[MikeW]

ill be honest - ive never got the leather thing, expect for riding motor bikes ....its no different to me than saying put on this santa clause suit cos I want you big time ..its dress up but not sure why it has to be leather ....guess if I tried it i would get it !!!

That basically makes two of us. There's a lot of stuff "some gay men do" that I don't understand. Or, to put another way, just doesn't do much for me so far as erotic stimulation is concerned. Some of it is, quite the contrary, a total turnoff. But w/e… I'm off topic.