Mike W is always thoughtful and helpful. It is good to consider any of his advice carefully...even when it might not have been what you were hoping to hear.
If I can be of help to anyone, that makes my day! Seriously, I say this… I really don't have much of a life (socially speaking) anymore -- outside of on-line participating in forums, emailing pen-pals and such. I have no children, no real family, not much of a 'community', very few IRL friends (a few, some I've had for decades)… so… this is one way I give my life meaning -- through (hopefully) helping others.
BEWARE THOUGH! I'm not a saint! FAR, far, far from 'perfect' or 'having it all together' or 'free from complaints and problems'. Truly. You have NO IDEA. I just don't talk about them much. All in all I'm doing ok!