Coming Out Isn't Always Traumatic

[BarryAndBryan]

Since my husband Bryan told his story...(which was very traumatic for him and something that has affected him mentally and physically do this day)...I thought I would tell my story....

Coming out isn't always a traumatic thing....(and my heart goes out to all who have had a bad experience)....mine was a very simple process....

First of all I should say that I at one point was engaged to a woman when I was 17....married a woman..(a different one) when I was 20....and I have 3 children....I've always been the type of person who doesn't give a fuck what people say or think of me....I knew I was bisexual since my earliest memories....when I turned 16.. and knew I wanted to act on these feelings...I basically looked at all my friends and said I'm bisexual...fucking deal with it....and they did....(I was goth at that time and I think most people were scared of me Lol)....

From that moment on I told everyone I met....except my family....until I was 19.....when one night I was drinking....(a favorite pastime of mine still)....called my mother out of the blue at about 2 in the morning....said...hello mother, I need to tell you I'M bisexual...."what do you mean," she asks....."it means I like to fuck both men and women"...was my drunken response.... lol....and since then...I have flown free.... always being who I am...never letting others opinions bring me down...love me or hate me...I live for me...no one else.....----Barry

[Wolfpack]

Glad to hear your coming out process was fairly painless.

It would be so nice if everyone found it so easy.

[East]

Mine was extremely easy.....

I was hanging out with the "smart kids"...the "stoners"...and the "eccentric and gay crowd" all at once. I liked the eccentrics and gays the best...the most interesting and fun....

So it occurred to me one morning I was gay...five minutes later I announced it to my entire family at the breakfast table and I was done. I had no angst....

My grandmother's best friends since the 1920s-30s were a lesbian couple who were together there whole lives so I was around lesbians since I was born...and no one cared....they were my "aunts"...I liked them a lot because they had a lot of animals to play with and pet LOL

I am not sure if I believe in astrology or not...never have been...but the guy who did my chart knew my story and he told me how I approached it was because of my Leo thing...and some planets being in some position...I dunno exactly. It was interesting at the time...

[BarryAndBryan]

Lol....well East.....I'm a Leo too

[Iceblink]

Mine was not traumatic and was a very easy experience. When I told my parents, they both just accepted it and life went on. My mother told she had known since I was 4. I had no problem introducing my parents to my boyfriends and they considered my previous longterm boyfriend of 7 years a part of the family. My dad has since died, but my mother and her new husband treat my partner as a part of the family. When you see these threads pop up where you are asked to share your coming out experience, I usually do not post because it was just a day of no drama, nothing exciting. There is just not much to tell. I hoping in the future this is the way it is for most everyone.