Being recognized as gay...

[Borg69]

Use lots of "jazz hands" waving at the other guys and yell, "Heeeey Girlfriend!".



... just kidding... don't do that.

[Camfer]

While some sort of rainbow schwag would help, perhaps some other possibilities would be more effective. Your passive approach might not work. Currently you're hoping guys that you're attracted to will happen to notice that you're into the cock, happen to be attracted to you, and that they will then consequently make a move on you, while you stand around hoping they do so. Hmm, what are the odds.

In my experience, I rarely get what I don't pursue. If I want something, I pursue it.

You can develop gaydar. Gaydar is social awareness, and you can work on it. If you see a guy you're attracted to, go up and talk to him. If you're at the rec center, it is as easy as asking for a spot on a lift. Or offering to spot him on his set. Just get a conversation going. If you really like a guy ask him when he usually works out. Try the briefest physical touch a see if he responds in kind. Ask him if he has a girlfriend. If he asks you back, say,"Nah, I'm into guys." Ask him if he goes out in Dallas. Mention that you want to go to _________, where __________ is some notoriously gay club.

Lastly, since you appear to have a muscle fetish going on, that sort of narrow criterion is often easier to fulfill on the gay apps. If you get on a gay app and make a profile that clearly advertises what you seek, there's some chance you can find it.

There are no gay yentas in Denton you can hire. While your idea of a gay accessory is a good step, taking initiative in social situations will probably work better. I know that may be slightly past your comfort zone today, but step by step you can get there.

[Iceblink]

Buy a few "gay tee-shirts" from one of the various websites such as this one:

http://www.zazzle.com/gay+tshirts?pg=2

That should do the trick...

Since he says he is muscular, he could do the official gay muscular man shirt - no shirt, even at places for no apparent reason.

[cbissbort]

So I bought myself a rainbow paracord (would be great for a tourniquet) and a couple shirts that I thought were witty...
"Yes, I'm from Texas... No, I'm not a steer..."
"YOU SUCK... I like that in a guy."
And a custom one that I used my photoshop skills to make a very, very nice design (if I do say so myself). It says "BULK" with a rainbow gradient for the letters above an absolutely GORGEOUS guy that I made sketch-like. There's a triangle that underlines "BULK" and goes behind the guy. I'd post a link to it, but I'm still so fresh to the forums that I haven't fulfilled the post limit for posting links. Also, the system seems to want moderators to review my posts before they are published? Not sure why, but apparently I have stuff in the Mod queue, so it hasn't been posted yet.

Thanks for all the advice guys, please keep it coming, I'll take as much as I can get. (double entendres not withstanding haha)

[MikeW]

Buy a few "gay tee-shirts" from one of the various websites such as this one:

http://www.zazzle.com/gay+tshirts?pg=2

That should do the trick...

I liked this one but then they had to go and put that pedo-bear on it.

[Albie]

First of all, you haven't been here for very long and managed to have the nickname in my head of "Colin the Buttpirate". So, kudos on that.

Secondly, I agree with the bracelet or necklace. From the sound of it, you want people to know you're gay without being super jarring and cover your body in rainbows. I'm a bit of the same way. And muscular guys look good in jewelry.

[JackTX]

This is literally a problem I had when I was 19. I remember whining to my friend about it... "How will I know my people?!"... and he got me this triangle pin. Which turns out to be the symbol the nazis put on us in concentration camps... well, anyway...

I live in Dallas so my advice is suspect off the bat, but the bracelet isn't the worst idea. There may be some more subtle rainbow ones, silicone or not. If you're confident enough to pull it off, fuck 'em. A college isn't the worst place to be out at anyway, eh?

My gaydar is so-so, and I feel like at least 30% of the guys at my gym are gay (especially the dude in the yoga pants and the Gay Superhero--also yoga pants--, but we don't have time for that here). It wouldn't surprise me if there are a lot around you.

Or you could install one or more of the hookup apps, obviously. YMMV on that.

Good luck

[East]

Some people never develop gaydar...I know because I am one of them...

I worked as a bartender in a gay bar for 20 years so odds are overwhelming that I would have a great gaydar...but I don't. I never figured out why though. I have a few theories. I think it is probably that I don't care one way or the other....and I have seen so many different people and heard so many people describe their sexuality to me over the years that I think sexuality is a lot more complex than most other people do...

I only actually "know" someone is gay if they tell me...or if I see them emotionally in love with another guy and they are also having sex or a relationship with them...

I DO know, however, when a guy wants to have sex....and they can be gay, bi or (mostly) straight...

My secret...I just go with my gut ...it isn't really a conscious thought...more like an animal instinct.
I never really stopped to think about it ahead of time what their sexuality might be. Seduction is like a nice slow dance and it is mostly non verbal.....and the only sign I think I get is the vibe and the eyes...

So instead of wearing anything..I would suggest using your body language and your eyes and your instinct...and try to get your head out of the way.

[Elijoan]

Bracelet or necklace if you want something to wear. It could work especially well when it doesn't match the fashion of the clothes -- relevant people could realize it's a message. I met someone that way long ago, although it was signaling that I was kinky, not just gay. She told me it was the out-of-place (but subtle) necklace that told her.

It's also easy to remove if you find yourself in a situation requiring a step into the closet.

[meridannight]

Ah the classic stalemate: "need a guy to show other guys who all think I like girls that I like guys."

I have a solution to that stalemate, but I would *NEVER* consider implementing it. The solution is as follows:
1) Start dating a guy that is available and interested in dating me. (He will, almost without a doubt, not be my type.)
2) Initiate PDA at the gym
3) Repeat step two several days per week for a couple weeks
4) Dump the guy once I'm sure people know I'm gay

what the fuck? this is not what i meant. i meant when i am in public (or among colleagues/acquaintances who are not my friends) with a guy i am already intimate and romantically/sexually involved with then i am naturally physically expressive with him in that company. which usually is enough to give away my orientation to people who are paying attention.

don't make fucking assumptions based on abstract arbitrary thinking. it's a ''solution'' you came up with. it's never even crossed my mind in my whole 31 years of life. and it's fucking insulting. having some anonymous person on the internet impose such a warped line of thought on mine does not go down well with me.

i find the whole scenario or ''solution'' you proposed repulsive.