04-04-2015, 02:59 PM
There's a guy on another website who I have a "slight crush" on. He's goodlooking, but also extremely intelligent, witty and tries to help people with advice, in his dry humorous way.
I messaged him about his username, which I found interesting and he was confused, because I am horrible at communicating and I just felt so lame, that I thought I should just leave him alone.
That was a few months ago.
Then about a month ago, the website said I had a message from him, but then flagged the message as spam. I told him that his account had been sending me spam, so he could be aware. He replied back, but I assumed it was just a "thanks" message. I never opened it, because the website notifies you when people read your messages and I figured he didn't care to hear from me.
WELL, I forgot about that website and recently logged back in and I noticed my inbox was empty. (The website also allows you to delete unread messages you have sent) This surprised me because that means he saw I didn't read it and..canceled it. Which means...he remotely cared about a reply? Or the message could have been flagged as spam and deleted.
At any rate, I messaged him saying that the website's notification emails said I got a message from him(true), but that it was now gone, so it might have been spam.
He replied back saying that the website was very glitchy (so maybe he didn't delete the message, who knows) and then ended his message saying that he liked my profile.
Now this confused the heck out of me. He is extremely goodlooking and has a lot of people on that website lusting after him. This is part of the reason I regretted looking so awkward when I initially messaged him. I..just didn't think I'd remotely be on his radar. I am used to messaging guys and having them never reply, because I know they have 200+ messages in their inbox.
I decided that this was an invitation to continue messaging him, so I asked him about an upcoming movie that was related to his original username(which he has since changed) and he said he was going to see it on opening night and ended his message with a smile.
Now, I have been at that website for some time...and he responds to everyone in a very dry sarcastic manner that if you weren't familar with him, might be taken as him being mean.
I've never seen him speak to anybody in the friendly manner in which he addressed me, in his recent messages.
So...I want to ask him out in real life. Not to date. But to meet. We live in different states, but we're close enough for it to not be far. (NY metro area)
How do I go about doing this? A part of me wants to ask if he wants to see that movie with me, but he might be going with friends and that'd be rude or creepy. And maybe being in another state, wanting to meet up for a movie is creepy and too much, too soon.
For my age, I am extremely socially inept...so what is the proper protocol?
Should I just continue to message him and feel him out? Perhaps I am jumping the gun.
I messaged him about his username, which I found interesting and he was confused, because I am horrible at communicating and I just felt so lame, that I thought I should just leave him alone.
That was a few months ago.
Then about a month ago, the website said I had a message from him, but then flagged the message as spam. I told him that his account had been sending me spam, so he could be aware. He replied back, but I assumed it was just a "thanks" message. I never opened it, because the website notifies you when people read your messages and I figured he didn't care to hear from me.
WELL, I forgot about that website and recently logged back in and I noticed my inbox was empty. (The website also allows you to delete unread messages you have sent) This surprised me because that means he saw I didn't read it and..canceled it. Which means...he remotely cared about a reply? Or the message could have been flagged as spam and deleted.
At any rate, I messaged him saying that the website's notification emails said I got a message from him(true), but that it was now gone, so it might have been spam.
He replied back saying that the website was very glitchy (so maybe he didn't delete the message, who knows) and then ended his message saying that he liked my profile.
Now this confused the heck out of me. He is extremely goodlooking and has a lot of people on that website lusting after him. This is part of the reason I regretted looking so awkward when I initially messaged him. I..just didn't think I'd remotely be on his radar. I am used to messaging guys and having them never reply, because I know they have 200+ messages in their inbox.
I decided that this was an invitation to continue messaging him, so I asked him about an upcoming movie that was related to his original username(which he has since changed) and he said he was going to see it on opening night and ended his message with a smile.
Now, I have been at that website for some time...and he responds to everyone in a very dry sarcastic manner that if you weren't familar with him, might be taken as him being mean.
I've never seen him speak to anybody in the friendly manner in which he addressed me, in his recent messages.
So...I want to ask him out in real life. Not to date. But to meet. We live in different states, but we're close enough for it to not be far. (NY metro area)
How do I go about doing this? A part of me wants to ask if he wants to see that movie with me, but he might be going with friends and that'd be rude or creepy. And maybe being in another state, wanting to meet up for a movie is creepy and too much, too soon.
For my age, I am extremely socially inept...so what is the proper protocol?
Should I just continue to message him and feel him out? Perhaps I am jumping the gun.