Offensive Terms

[himself]

I feel a bit hurt when I hear words like faggot but I don't wish that the person who used them didn't use them. It wouldn't change how they perceive me / us. But that's just me.

[supasyd]

its all about context. I say cunt a lot. My friends can call me a cunt and it won't bother me because I can take a joke off them. If a stranger called me cunt, faggot or knobjockey In an aggressive tone obviously it would be different. Although I'd feel more like 'please go away' then 'I am offended'. I have a working class family. I can say fuck a lot if I am talking to my mum about something and it's no issue, but I sure as hell would be dead if I told my mum to fuck off. Same word, different context. (although me and my dad swear at each other because we behave like brothers anyway lol)

[Scootaloo]

I think it comes down to context, tone, who is saying, why they are saying it ect.

For example it is degrading to be called a faggot by someone trying to label or hurt you, but in bed if my partner is calling me that while we are *ahem* "getting busy" It can be kind of hot.

[starlight]

Context is everything but still just could not be offended by any name, maybe it wouldn't be nice but i just couldn't care if they were calling me.

[GaiPhillyBoy]

There are some terms I do find offensive when it refers to sexuality. I absolutely HATE the term "Faggot". Or "Fag". Or "Fag Hag". So derogatory! To me, that just shows the true IQ level of the person doing the name-calling. My response is usually something smartass like, "Keep pretending you're straight, loverboy!" LOL. But yeah, I can accept "queer" and the like. Perfectly acceptable.

[starlight]

In my place i was compared with something *gay* out loud. In front of customers too

[TigerLover]

Well personally I grew up eating faggots, they were delicious but oh so bad for you.



Honestly I don't think we have any equivalent on this side of the pond. I mean the only homophobic slurs I've ever heard of are Gaybow GayBoy and puff. Gaybow actually sounds like quite nice, Gayboy is just a statement of fact and puff makes me think of misses Puff from spongebob.

Although once back when I had long hair a bunch of random chavs yelled out "cut your hair gayboy" from a passing car. That was more confusing than offensive and i think they we're just enjoying the experience of yelling at someone from a vehicle.

[Cridders88]

It's all about context and tone. I know when someone is playfully joking (which I am fine with), or when they are actually being hateful. But I still wouldn't really want to be identified as "queer". Queer to me sounds like my sexuality is an odd and therefore negative thing.

[starlight]

Im still unsure as i doubt i would care but for me its more about my private life may be exposed even if i am out/

[Aquarius]

+1 who doesn't like to be called "queer".
The problem is that it's often used as an alleged political correct term by certain people who really don't mean it in a bad way. But it offends me, as I don't see myself as odd or strange.

But then, I even have slight problems with the term "LGBT" because it puts orientation and gender identity into one box, though it's two different categories, and it just gets to absurdity with all the other letters that are sometimes attached.

So, no term will ever make everyone happy, and I think it's important to be aware that there's no consensus, neither for us nor for black people nor for other "groups" (if we even can call it "groups"!). Someone creates those terms, without the majority being asked about it.

Is the entirety of people who are attracted to persons from at least the same gender a (gay) "community" even? I have a light issues with that.

As a conclusion of my thoughts, I'd say that Political Correctness with those terms will always remain utopic, but still, that doesn't make insults any nicer.