Jettalove Wrote:I completely agree, and I'm a chick. LOL
i think this might be easier for women to accept than for men, generally speaking. masculinity can be a very touchy subject for men. and by large, it is a lot more acceptable for women to be masculine, than for men to be 'feminine'. so, that plays into it.
because men are physically conditioned to fuck, to be the insertive partner, than the other way around. since women are physically conditioned the other way around, the submissive sexual role in bed in case of a man is
often seen as engaging in or expressing 'feminine' behavior. this stereotype has persisted throughout history. but it is an extremely superficial treatment and the easiest way out of the situation.
and additionally, of course, there's the fact that this stereotype also works the other way around, in
reinforcing some guys' masculinity. it is an easy 'proof' for those who need 'proof' (notwithstanding that masculinity doesn't need proving itself. it is apparent). for some men it is a way to assert their manhood to themselves or others, if needed. it should be a clear and evident, self-explanatory evidence, in their opinion.
but i am arguing against this being true at all. anybody who's had it both ways can attest that the line between the 'dominant' and 'submissive' partners during sexual intercourse is more blurred than the obvious insertive and receptive roles. IF there is a line at all. there are circumstances where that is not so at all, when both are more or less equal. not to mention, there is nothing wrong with a man exhibiting vulnerability (if a submissive role is more vulnerable under given circumstances, that is). it doesn't make him less of a man.
and even when we want to get down to the bare physical reality,
men and women were both made to be fucked. physically, both are capable of receptive intercourse. ergo, this stereotype doesn't hold any ground whatsoever.
thus it is ridiculous to claim and hold on to such an outdated unenlightened notion already.
i think it is used as a way to assert (falsely) masculinity more than it in practice detracts from masculinity. that's the difference, the way i see it.