artyboy Wrote:I dont like being top as I cant feel anything, its really odd, I go all num and I cant keep hard. Not sure why this is the case I have tried top a few times even though I find it hard because of my disability.
Just one of them things I think.
My first lover trained me how to... um... erm.... How to put this in a way that ain't that crude.... Forget it... use my ass to milk his dick until he came.
This is not the same thing as stroking in and out, this is working the ass muscles in a manner to 'milk' the dick.
The common complaint of tops is that bottoms don't know how to use their arse muscles. Clenching isn't THAT hard - in fact there are exercises one can do to get those muscles stronger.
The problem with gay sex is we are not really educated on the things we can do to make it work the right way. Most of us blindly fall into these routines and assume that because we see ass pounding on porn that that is all.
The reality is that there are variations on themes here which affect the top or the bottom or both at the same time. Like Virge discovering the secret to bring off a bottom - all by accident.
Bottoms are capable of doing stuff with their asses which would blow the mind of a top without the 'traditional' ass pounding that we see on porn.
Of course all of that interior movement stuff isn't film able - well it is, but I doubt porn would be as fascinating if it was done with medical imagery devices.:biggrin:
I have no doubt that 20 years ago this numbness and other issues you experience would magically vanish if I got my hands... well actually my arse, wrapped around you. :tongue:
But then I was trained well by a guy who knew a lot of interesting things. :eek: