Dealing with premature ejaculation...

[Darius]

I have a Pakistani friend who suffers from this. He said no matter how many times a day he cums, it is always too fast. He's afraid he won't be able to keep his wife happy when he marries. I told him he should be more worried about his future wife finding out he likes guys.

[Wardo94]

You're an American and you have your foreskin you lucky son of a gun... For fucks sake don't get cut because you have PE. Cut men suffer PE too you know.

You need to learn the feelings that warn you you are about to come, you need the muscle strength to hold it back and you need to be able to communicate to your lover to stop or slow the hell down.

1. start doing kegel excercises - after a couple of weeks you should be able to stop your pee mid flow at will. This is the same muscle which you can use to hold back orgasm
2. start practicing edging
3. get a fleshlight.

You need to practice and desensitise through use of your equipment, all of which has naturally evolved to make you cum as fast as possible.

Learn your body, make it better and then own it.

In the meantime the idea of getting a quick O out of the way to delay the next is not a bad idea.

Yeah. I love my foreskin too much to get rid of it like that :x And I have the strength to fully stop my pee. But when it comes to cumming, I just can't, unless I stop stroking. But I will take in your advice and see how that works. Thanks!

I guess the question is whether you can cum again in a reasonable time after? I had on trick who came about a minute after we started....and then 6 times after that over an 8 hour marathon fuck.

good times...

I can. If I were to mess around with a guy right now, I could cum in about a mintue, if I'm that horny. But I can stay hard and cum many times after. But the difference is, is that after the first time, it'll take me a while to cum again and again. Which isn't a problem.

"Techniques in desensitization"

It's a process but can be very helpful...

Practice edging, pausing when you're close then continue.
You must set a time goal.

Pull your foreskin back..massage the head (Top) of your penis with your palm .


Wear loose gym shorts with no underwear.
Try it around the house at first.. then maybe go for a long walk...or at the gym?
The fabric will constantly rub against your penis it will lose a little sensitivity.

^^^^
I hope that helps.

Yeah. I pretty much always edge when I get to pleasuring myself, since I don't do it often. But it never seems to help. I might be doing it wrong, but I'm not sure.

My first question is, what happens after you cum? Do you just stop whatever you're doing with someone?

In my youth (oh, so very long ago) I liked it when guys I were with were so turned on they came rather quickly SO LONG AS that was't the "end" of it. It was *especially* nice if that was just the beginning and we went on, maybe over and over again. So... that's the question. How long before you're able to cum again?

If it takes you awhile (say, an hour or more) to get to that point of no return you might take this into consideration when hooking up or going out on a date... JERK OFF IN ADVANCE so the urgent need to get off isn't there so much.

But, actually, you're right. It takes practice and, I would say, frequency of sexual experience. I suspect the more sexual experiences you have (and the older you become), this will become less of an issue. In the mean time if you want to come out to California and let me help you with your problem, repeatedly, I'd be happy to help you out! [emoji23]

lmao Thank you for the offer! It's one that I might just not refuse.... Even though I have messed around with many guys, I have made the mistake with those that I topped with, where I stopped immediately after I cummed. I could definitely keep going, but out of instinct, I just stop for some reason. Which may be the reason why some might think I only cum once and can't keep going. I still need a lot of practice and experience in the field, so I guess whoever I mess around with next, I'll see if I can make it more of a lessen than a quickie session. I'm pretty basic to the whole sex thing. I need to learn my body, and learn how to go with the flow of things and what not, if that makes sense.

[Rareboy]

I can. If I were to mess around with a guy right now, I could cum in about a mintue, if I'm that horny. But I can stay hard and cum many times after. But the difference is, is that after the first time, it'll take me a while to cum again and again. Which isn't a problem.

now you're just bragging. lol.

[LONDONER]

Not sure if this will help or not with your problem but there is a method of stopping ejaculation. You can try it out first by masturbating.

At the point just before orgasm, find the spot midway between the perineum and the anus and press there hard and keep pressed. You will experience the orgasm but not ejeculate. It's a very pleasureable experience. Now if you're fucking or being fucked, maybe you or your even partner can reach the spot for you. As long as you can keep your erection and have the stamina, you can go on like this continuously.

[Anocxu]

I guess the question is whether you can cum again in a reasonable time after? I had on trick who came about a minute after we started....and then 6 times after that over an 8 hour marathon fuck.

good times...

Having sex on meth doesn't count...