07-23-2015, 01:59 AM
Anocxu Wrote:Some of us are constantly in a mode doing what is right for "the relationship"
Some you have to convince to do the right thing..
Some have no clue what rhe right thing is.
Inflated Egos kill relationships.. relationships...
Ages ago in here I commented on a thread about how I've learned to keep ego in check... It was funny.
It was about Jay deciding I was going to help him clean out my closet and chests. His idea of me helping was him pulling out all the clothes he didn't like and letting me convince him why I needed to keep each piece. There were clothes I'd had since 2002. hahahahaha!
Talk about the right situation for an ego to come out with a machete!!!! THAT WAS IT! He was throwing out my stuff!!!!
After about 30 minutes it sunk in that I really didn't need anything he was throwing out and besides, he was going to start buying me clothes he liked. I'd always been plaid flannel shirts and jeans.
All of a sudden it flashed in my head the reason he was doing it because he cared more than I did about what I look like with clothes on. That sealed the deal. After that he'd pull something out for me to try to talk him out of throwing away and I'd point to the wardrobe graveyard he had going on in the floor.
So he threw out clothes I loved. I didn't give a shit.
He bought me clothes I'd have never bought for myself. I didn't give a shit.
Now he lays out clothes for me to wear if we're going anywhere. He ENJOYS it... He LIKES seeing me dressed to impress.
NOW I give a shit about what he enjoys and likes and my ego gets sent to the yard anytime it's a matter of what he enjoys and likes. I'm not in this to argue about clothes, furniture, what color flowers to plant, or anything that's more important to him than me. None of that crap has nothing to do with why I put up with his cranky bossy butt. hahahaha! I keep focused on the important big things and don't sweat the small stuff at all.
The big stuff IMO all adds up to whatever keeps a smile on his face when he's talking to me.