Selfish top,enabling bottom

[Anonymous]

I've been chatting to top guys on online dating apps, and I've found like a similarity to quite a number of them. They don't like giving oral,or swallowing,and believe that bottoms always enjoy doing those for them. And yeah,they're not totally wrong too, cause they ARE getting laid with these bottoms who enabled them. And now these tops think it's a standard or something for all bottoms.

Yes,I know not all tops and bottoms are like that. I've even seen a porn star who's a pure top and he loves swallowing and licking cum off his bottom. And some of the tops on this forum aren't like that.

Every time I talk to this kind of people,it kinda makes me angry. I've made some past mistakes of meeting guys without talking about this stuff only to end up getting disappointed cause they didn't give oral back or even if they did give,it was crappy cause they were just returning 'favor'. When you don't enjoy it,you don't make an effort to be good at it.

Thoughts?

[LJay]

......and?

[Emiliano]

I personally am not into it when a guy is too hung up on what his "role" in bed is.

[Anonymous]

I personally am not into it when a guy is too hung up on what his "role" in bed is.

Yea I don't personally identify with any role,I believe in the chemistry that will determine that with different people. But for the purpose of hooking up, I'll say I'm vers bottom, which is just bottom to most people.
[MENTION=20933]LJay[/MENTION] thanks for your "thought"

[Anocxu]

Write what you expect in your profile.. and assert your expectations.

You should be able to figure out what a guy wants when exchanging messages.

Example:
*A top only guy that goes on and on and on about YOUR penis is probably not a top.

*A Vers Top that goes on and on and on about YOUR penis is probably a Bottom.

*A guy that is interested in 50/50 exchange will steer the conversation accordingly.

*You could also state in your profile.. no oral exchange = Big
Turnoff.

You should converse with guys long enough to figure out what they REALLY want.

*If a guy keeps talking about his penis in every other line.
That's probably all he wants to get wet.

Men on hookup apps are pretty easy to read..
Its simple mathematics..

Subtract what they say they really want.. from what they actually talk about repeatedly..

What they say they want.. 80% of the time = what you want to hear.

On that note ..
Be specific in what you advertise..
if you want to bottom .. then get blown..
The pics you exchange should reflect that..

Ps..
Remember..
Condoms..
No exceptions..

[VirgoMasquerade]

Coming from a virgin top ( i know) I believe job is to get both parties off. A top shouldn't just focuses his work on just his dick he should work to pleasure himself and the bottom. Selfishness isn't hot or sexy

[East]

As a top....I have a "duty"..in my mind anyway...to get the bottom off first....before I cum...it is just good manners...

However...I do it while I am fucking him...no oral sex for me...

Hate it..giving or receiving...it bores the crap out of me...I would rather be celibate if oral sex was the only thing on the menu...yawns....