I like a guy who has HIV..

[Anocxu]

I consider this thread a group effort..

I believe any sexually active human being Should do their homework on HIV and all STDs.

Consider this thread solid baseline information..however, I encourage you to do your own research, a clever way would be to google search some the references made here for starters.

Remember.. the research you are doing is not only to protect yourself.. but also to have a better understanding of your partner.

Ps
I am very happy you were open about your concerns .

http:// http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/

http:// http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/...17131.php

[Camfer]

Here's a really accessible article to read in The Guardian, about a study that had 100% success in preventing HIV infection in 600 people over a 2.5 year period through them taking a daily pill.

http://www.ngrguardiannews.com/2015/09/h...cess-rate/

[meridannight]

you are extremely ignorant when it comes to HIV. others have offered some good information in that regard, but i suggest you at least go on wikipedia and educate yourself a little. especially because you like a guy who is HIV positive.

and then there's this:

the fact that I am BI and could potentially fall in love with a girl and have children.
My reasoning for making this point is that I am not limiting myself to only men because I find women attractive. Thus, I could not worry about dating this guy or getting into a serious relationship (I don't have to worry about "well I found a guy I like, I probably won't find another, so I should stick with him..") because I could potentially fall for a girl one day.

why the fuck did you even make this thread then? what exactly are you asking here? you've labeled yourself as a bi man in a ''monogamous gay relationship''. are you in a relationship with this HIV+ guy now? because you cuddled with him? that makes it a relationship? or are you in a relationship with some other man, but are cuddling and kissing another one on the side, while keeping the line open for a wife and some kids as well? while saying you couldn't be bothered about getting into a serious relationship? what the fuck?

stay away from any relationship. you're not ready for it.


PS. you don't know shit about HIV or sex if you equate positive HIV status with no sex, or that you will ''somehow'' contract it. it's not gonna happen through some mysterious route, somehow.

[MFax74]

you are extremely ignorant when it comes to HIV. others have offered some good information in that regard, but i suggest you at least go on wikipedia and educate yourself a little. especially because you like a guy who is HIV positive.

and then there's this:




why the fuck did you even make this thread then? what exactly are you asking here? you've labeled yourself as a bi man in a ''monogamous gay relationship''. are you in a relationship with this HIV+ guy now? because you cuddled with him? that makes it a relationship? or are you in a relationship with some other man, but are cuddling and kissing another one on the side, while keeping the line open for a wife and some kids as well? while saying you couldn't be bothered about getting into a serious relationship? what the fuck?

stay away from any relationship. you're not ready for it.


PS. you don't know shit about HIV or sex if you equate positive HIV status with no sex, or that you will ''somehow'' contract it. it's not gonna happen through some mysterious route, somehow.

I wanted to say something like this... but you did it for me. Dude needs to read a little bit. HIV ain't no thang these days.

[Cuddly]

Oh it's definately a thang. It will continue to be a thang until we find a cure.

But with the medications we currently have, HIV does not have to be a relationship dealbreaker. If he's taking his medication and checked regularly, he will live a long healthy life. As for infection, if his count is low, as it should be and you're using protection, you're safe.

[ca1050]

why the fuck did you even make this thread then? what exactly are you asking here? you've labeled yourself as a bi man in a ''monogamous gay relationship''. are you in a relationship with this HIV+ guy now? because you cuddled with him? that makes it a relationship? or are you in a relationship with some other man, but are cuddling and kissing another one on the side, while keeping the line open for a wife and some kids as well? while saying you couldn't be bothered about getting into a serious relationship? what the fuck? [/B]

PS. you don't know shit about HIV or sex if you equate positive HIV status with no sex, or that you will ''somehow'' contract it. it's not gonna happen through some mysterious route, somehow.

I have not been on this site in several months. When I last was, I was in a relationship, thus why I had the status. However, I have not been in one for some time now. I simply haven't updated my info. So, that clears that little mistake.
In regards to everything else, yes, I was not up to date on facts about HIV. I had no clue about the advances in HIV research and how to keep it under control. It isn't something I would typically just read about. Since making this post, I have done intense reading and research in regards to HIV. I learned about PreP and methods for reducing transfer.

In addition, when I created this thread, I was under intense stress and anxiety. This is a whole new thing to me, and I had no clue how to react or what I should even do. All I new at the time, is that HIV was a serious disease and is transmitted sexually. The fact that I had just come into contact (not sexually) with the first person I have personally ever known to have HIV freaked me out. Which I find completely understandable for a first experience with something that I knew little about and, what I did know, was that back in school we were told how terrible it was (which was some time ago).

As for what I am asking, I received some excellent advice from CAMFER. Which was all I needed. I overreacted and am myself a little surprised at what I posted as it does seem immature and misleading. What can I say, I was scared and didn't know what to do. I hope that this will clarify that.

P.S
I joined this forum to seek advice from wiser men about issues/situations I do not know how to handle or may not be familiar with. I DID NOT join this forum so that someone could degrade or criticize me based on my lack of knowledge or wisdom. Which, is why there is such a thing as forums. To help others who do not know about certain topics and where they may ask questions freely. This forum is for helping others, not for being an ass.

[Anonymous]

Hi.. I can understand your situation. In fact, recently I have been diagnosed with this disease and I have posted a thread too.

Honestly, I wouldn't and don't want to guide you from my point of view. Infact, I have always been very very scared of this disease yet as some one has mentioned that you never know who are hiv positive just from their face and who knows, you must have had slept with someone who was HIV positive but the difference is you didn't know about his status.

Now, the guy whom you have met recently has honestly told you about his condition and you also have liking for him. If it would have been my situation, probably I would have feared and would have tried to ignore him gradually. Again, if I had strong liking for him, then I would gathered all possible information about the disease, possibilities and circumstances.

I don't want to confuse you, please get this straight. If that guy is taking his meds properly, leading a healthy life (exercise, meditation, having healthy food, being cheerful and abstaining from drugs or an y kind of intoxicating things) then it is quite possible that guy is free from infection though he would still remain hiv positive.

All you have to do is, always use a condom (trusted ones),lube to avoid condom breakage, Infact use condom even at the time giving blowjob ( there minimal chances but why to take risk) and kissing is fine but still avoid deep kissing because if he has cuts inside his mouth and if you too have cuts, then only there is a possibility other wise no chance.

Few important things:

Never brush your teeth before kissing or sex as it may lead to gum bleed which you may not know rather gurggle with a liquid mouth freshner.

Never ever share a lip gel with him or anyone or never use others lip gel if you have chapped lips.

I would suggest, meet a Doctor or a Counselor from Art or a HIV specialist, he /she will enlighten you deeply

Lastly, i want to say if you still find these things very complicated, you can avoid him, nobody would judge you. There is nothing wrong to fear about the disease, or thinking about your own health. That guy would understand you.