Dating a recreational drug user

[Darius]

Don't get too attached. Even if you were only friends, you would risk getting hurt watching what could become a self destructive journey for him. There are a reasons people use mind altering substances and they aren't healthy ones. And yes, alcohol can be used that way, too.

[Beaux]

That's just the thing Tiger..
Recreational users end up as heavy users more than 50% of the time..

2/3 of Americans have smoked pot. I suspect the number of LGBT Americans who have smoked pot is higher, do you automatically disqualify anyone who ever smoked pot?

Every alcoholic started out drinking milk. Should we avoid dating milk drinkers since many of them turn into alcoholics later in life...?

While I agree that a person who has a problem with recreational drug use probably shouldn't date a pot-head, slippery-slope arguments aren't really logical.....js.

~Beaux

[Anocxu]

2/3 of Americans have smoked pot. I suspect the number of LGBT Americans who have smoked pot is higher, do you automatically disqualify anyone who ever smoked pot?

Every alcoholic started out drinking milk. Should we avoid dating milk drinkers since many of them turn into alcoholics later in life...?

While I agree that a person who has a problem with recreational drug use probably shouldn't date a pot-head, slippery-slope arguments aren't really logical.....js.

~Beaux

I was referring to Coke and Mollies (or ectacy ) (X) in reference to the opening post .
I should have made my post clearer..

Users of hard drugs..
Cocaine
Meth
Oxy..
Flakka
Bath Salts
Ghb


Every other person I know smokes Marijuana. ..
Almost everyone I know will go out to have a drink once in a while..

The opening posters love i interest does his coke and Molly parties once a month..
Probably takes him a week to dry out ..
Foggy Head, sleeping every chance he gets for that week after..
Believe me ..I know , and have seen that cycle ..

By the time he's back to "normal" It's time for another party..

[ShiftyNJ]

Maybe you should make some friends outside the club scene. A big city will have gay men into all kinds of pursuits (sports, hobbies, arts, etc.). Do you have meetup.org? It is a great low-pressure way to make new friends, and then if someone strikes your eye you have an avenue to talk to each other. Also if there is an LGBT community center I'm sure they host events.

[Insertnamehere]

Cocaine?

Ffs the hell are you still doing with this guy?

[TwisttheLeaf]

Sorry, that's always been a hard limit for me.

I would suggest finding someone whose habits aren't going to disrupt your comfort levels, and possibly at some point, your life.

[East]

Hi,

Does anyone have experience of being in a relationship like this? I'm wondering if I get out now before it gets really serious, or ask if he is willing to change... Help!

J

Addressing this one point..I think if you have to ask him to change....you should move along.

I would suggest you find another guy and do both of you a favor.

[verysimple]

After reading this all I have to say is..

RUN... AS FAST AS YOU CAN... JUST KEEP RUNNING WITHOUT LOOKING BACK. DON'T EVEN THINK TO LOOK BACK...

Or that's what I would do I guess..
Honestly dude, IF you're expecting serious/ good thing to come out of a recreational user. I'll just give u a reality check and tell u not to unless U're willing to give it all the work and patience you have in the world not to let him get too deep and get him to stop to which I personally wouldn't waste my time and just leave and cut all means of communication with him

[Pix]

I don't know if it's in your power (or even if it's safe to do), but I'd be curious why drugs are THAT popular there, so if you could ask around on how they got started, I'd love to hear the answers. I'm assuming that you're talking about gays in general and not some specific niche (and I'm also assuming that this means most straights are also doing a lot of drugs in the area you're in, rather than it being the "pink dollar/pound" keeping the drug dealers in business), so correct me if I'm wrong.

[meridannight]

i am surprised at how much blind prejudice still exists around drug use. sure, there are those who can't handle their drugs, but those cases are rather obvious to recognize. people telling you in capital letters to run and never look back. funny. have any of you actually had experience with a guy who uses cocaine/drugs?

i use cocaine recreationally. usually a few times a year, it's more of a binge use than regular use. it hasn't compromised my personal, social or professional life. i am doing just as well as i was doing before i ever used it. it hasn't ruined relationships, friendships, jobs....nothing.

get over your uninformed panic and ignorance. it's ridiculous.

cocaine is rather harmless, actually, compared to other drugs. and it is definitely a lot less harmful than alcohol. most people who use cocaine successfully control their use, without any adverse effects. but you don't hear about these people in the media, and you won't recognize them among your friends/acquaintances because there are no symptoms associated with heavy drugs.

so, to answer your question, the fact that he uses cocaine shouldn't affect your relationship. if you really like him and want to be with him it shouldn't matter anyway. if it starts affecting your relationship, you will be able to tell, and there are ways to deal with that. if this is something that makes you turn away from him, he's better off without you.