Long term jobless / scared of meeting people

[Rod]

you use the modern term "I'm in between jobs right now, what about you?" then do a quick subject change.

a rich man could have all the money in the world, carried by his confidence but isolated by his wealth. he'll never find anything true. a poor man gathers moral fiber and good will with humble thoughts. have you become humble these past few years?

your punishing yourself for something your not entirely in control of. go out there and really talk to people. the money doesn't catch the eye of a good man his eyes are focused on what your paying attention to. his body, his money, or his soul. choose wisely and you will find the lover who will not only lift up your spirit. but push you to better yourself as well.

[LJay]

Good job, Aquarius!

You have a lot more going than you seem to think. Keeping busy is important.

[strider65]

this topic hits home to me for a number of reasons.

there was excellent advice and perspective which has already been posted, frankly, that I took wisdom from.

you're being really hard on yourself dude.

volunteering is not a bad idea. seriously.

it would get you engaged and feeling like you were contributing...

I myself don't carry that guilt. I've been blessed to be able to retire early, I enjoy reading and leading the life of a scholar. That was a blessing....

different strokes for different folks. but remember the fact that you are even thinking like this, speaks well of you. there are liars and thieves in this world who have far less of a conscience than you.

count your blessings... I do every morning. the first one is that I woke up

[strider65]

capitalism teaches us that we must all have a collective consciousness like a beehive and always be feverishly working.

that theory has been debunked from 100 different angles. that Puritan Protestant work ethic is drilled into us from childhood. and damn for sure if it is necessary to keep one's head above water

most people do not have the luxury of stopping long enough to intellectualize about it.

the fact that you do... stop beating yourself up about it. it is what it is. thank the Powers that Be

[Gideon]

Hmmm go back to school? (If that's plausible)

Figure out what you need to get you the job you want, another degree or even just a trade school degree that will help place you with a job you're qualified for..maybe something that first degree of yours could contribute to later on after a foot in the door and a little experience in the field.

And in the meantime when asked what you do...you can answer student, yeah?

[strider65]

google 'back on the chain gang' by the pretenders...

gosh I'm old, lol

[strider65]

college taught me that capitalism is

'another round of the proletariat suckling at the bourgeouis teat'

guarantee you that will stop conversation over the Thanksgiving table

brother you will be ok. find your niche

[strider65]

that and that the sum of the square of two sides of an isoscoles triangle is equal to the square of the third side.

really impressive in a job interview...

[AlfredM]

To be honest,I feel like I'm at the same place as you are. I just graduated in September,the convocation was end of October,but I'm not really finding any job yet cause I don't feel confident enough to be in that world. Taking a master degree would be a good alternative,except I don't want to do it locally as that would waste my chance to actually move to another country, and with the ringgits depreciating, getting a sponsor is harder than before. Most of my friends are in KL, so I do want to get a job there, and the chance to meet other guys is higher there too. So getting a job there would get me away from the isolation that I'm feeling now at home. And yeah,whenever I meet new people,or even some relatives and old friends, I got the same question, and all I could say is that I'm a fresh grad, thinking of furthering study, but in the mean time looking for job. Except the part looking for job is a really slow progress, and it's been almost 3 months, how long can I keep up the title "fresh" grad.

[Aquarius]

Alfred, for you it's easier though, because you are still young. I am nearly 40.

I have the same issue anyway, I don't feel confident enough for the tough job world.
I constantly hear people moaning about their job, about having to work, about their boss being their enemy, about how hard it is to keep up a life besides the job... this isn't helping. I'm not tough enough for this world, I'm afraid. I'm just thankful and relieved that financially I can live a decent life for now, even though I can't go on holidays as most of my friends do.

I met new people lately, and they still don't know about my work situation. A few days ago, one of the guys talked about his job and how he used to work 60-80 hours per week for quite a while, and I just sit there and my head goes "oh god, what when he knows that I never worked, how can we even be friends..."

It feels a bit like a coming out, to reveal that part about myself.