When we fall in love ...

[verysimple]

They say you can only fall in love once. I'm talking about real love. Whether it is from first sight (In which i don't believe but anything is possible) or the kind that takes time to develop... The kind where butterflies dance in your stomach and weaken your knees that you just can't walk anymore. The kind where your heart is beating so much that you feel it's going to burst out of your chest. How true is that? I'm wondering if that could happen over and over again instead of just once in a lifetime?...
I was in a place where I had intense feelings for a crush but I don't think it was "True love" cuz he was easy to get over. Though, I've never fell in love... True love!

What's your story? Ever had a true love experience? Share the good. Lol

[Cridders88]

I've never been in love. I have felt intense feelings of lust and infatuation that have felt like love but I know they haven't because they ended up passing with time. I don't think it's true that you can only fall in love just the once in your lifetime though. I can't see why that would be true.

[verysimple]

I've never been in love. I have felt intense feelings of lust and infatuation that have felt like love but I know they haven't because they ended up passing with time. I don't think it's true that you can only fall in love just the once in your lifetime though. I can't see why that would be true.

Right?!... I believe that as long as you still have a heart and emotions.. U can fall in love more than once... What about love from first sight though ?? Does that last?? ...

[Cridders88]

Right?!... I believe that as long as you still have a heart and emotions.. U can fall in love more than once... What about love from first sight though ?? Does that last?? ...

I don't believe in love at first sight. Love is something that develops slowly and over time IMO. Initial feelings of butterflies and lust at first sight yeah, but this isn't love.

[AlfredM]

I don't think I've been in love, but I've had a boyfriend before, not the same thing. Love at first sight, or the early stage of any relationship, that's just infatuation. Or in other words, the honeymoon period. That's when every little things that you usually find annoying, you find it's cute, lol. Until the reality kicks in, honeymoon period ends, that's when you'll know if you actually love the other person or not.

Of course it could happen more than once. In fact, it could happen towards more than one person at one time too, thus the concept of polygamy. The concept of "the one" doesn't make sense IMO, even mathematically it's almost impossible to meet just one person for your true love. Just my 2 cents. [emoji55]

[verysimple]

I don't believe in love at first sight. Love is something that develops slowly and over time IMO. Initial feelings of butterflies and lust at first sight yeah, but this isn't love.

Yea, maybe you're right.. Those who claim to have spent their lives together did so from love at first sight ... Didn't really fall inlove with each other on an intense, unconditional, spiritual level.. It was like u said, lust and whatever.. Who knows though? Anything's possible.

[verysimple]

I don't think I've been in love, but I've had a boyfriend before, not the same thing. Love at first sight, or the early stage of any relationship, that's just infatuation. Or in other words, the honeymoon period. That's when every little things that you usually find annoying, you find it's cute, lol. Until the reality kicks in, honeymoon period ends, that's when you'll know if you actually love the other person or not.

Of course it could happen more than once. In fact, it could happen towards more than one person at one time too, thus the concept of polygamy. The concept of "the one" doesn't make sense IMO, even mathematically it's almost impossible to meet just one person for your true love. Just my 2 cents. [emoji55]

Which is why I said, As long as one has a heart and feelings... It is possible to fall inlove more than once...

To comment on "Impossible to meet just one person for your true love" I don't completely agree because I believe in the existence of your soul mate.. Your other half.. The one that completes you. Now, falling inlove with someone else wouldn't really matter when you have found your soulmate/ the one who completes you. When you find the one who fulfills your needs and and treats you in every way that's right. You too treating them the waay that suits them. Then you wouldn't find love in others because you don't need to look for it in the first place anyway..

[MikeW]

Yea, maybe you're right.. Those who claim to have spent their lives together did so from love at first sight ... Didn't really fall inlove with each other on an intense, unconditional, spiritual level.. It was like u said, lust and whatever.. Who knows though? Anything's possible.

First off... NOT EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE. I see you keep saying that, it just isn't true. "Even God Himself can't beat an Ace with a Deuce of Spades." Or.. Once someone is dead, they're fucking dead. They're not coming back into your life. Ever. So why give voice to this silly "anything is possible" BS, VS?

That said, some things ARE possible that may be highly unlikely.

Take "love at first sight" for example. I know that happens because it happened to me with my second partner, Thomas. We were both at a social gathering... a large house party with, ummm, I'd say around 75 gay men. I knew quite a few of them as they were all Discovery Community members. I was walking along a path toward the hot tub.... this was a huge hot tub, almost the size of a small swimming pool. In fact, it had water jets in it so one could swim in place. It easily held more than a dozen guys.

Anyway, I'm heading to the dressing room and I see Thomas sitting there on the lawn with a couple other guys and he sees me at the same moment. There was this arch of electricity, like lightening, that jumped between us that was SO INTENSE that it literally shocked me. It was like a jolt of electricity running through my body. AND, moreover, I saw that HE felt the same god damned thing!

Typical me, though, I played it cool. Walked right past him and into the changing room, took off my clothes and got into the hot tub next to my best friend, Ira. I was telling him about what had just happened and the next thing I know, there's Thomas (we'd not yet introduced ourselves), naked and getting into the hot tub. Then he proceeded to get right next to ME, smiling this big ass grin.

Now I'll grant you that we came to love one-another MORE as time went on. There's a whole, novel length drama that unfolds in our relationship. It ends up being a total DISASTER. I've told bits and pieces of this story in the forum before.

But that isn't the point. Yeah it was lust. Yeah it was "infatuation". But it was also way more than that. WE KNEW one another. Instantly. It was like we'd been there/here before... possibly many times. Our relationship was INTENSE, very intense, from the first moment we laid eyes on one another and STAYED that way for the years we were together. It wasn't always "a bed of roses" either. At times it was bloody fucking hell. PASSION... it is a strong force and it can make people go crazy. Totally bat shit crazy.

But, yeah, it WAS "love" at first sight.

[AlfredM]

To comment on "Impossible to meet just one person for your true love" I don't completely agree because I believe in the existence of your soul mate..

Well, what I meant by that was, there must be more than one soul mates. Otherwise, you could be spending your whole life looking for one person who could exist anywhere on earth and still not finding him. It's like finding a needle in the haystack. There must be more than one needle.

[BlueStar]

Real love, true love, whatever you call it, does not exist only once. I don't believe in such a thing called "the love of my life". We can fall in love so many times in our lives, find more than one person who deeply cares about us.