How to deal with compulsive liars? Family Member
01-19-2016, 12:09 AM
Hey guys,
Yesterday's incident pushed me over the edge and every bit of information was spat at my BROTHER for being a liar for majority of his life. What happened?
For Christmas I purchased him a pair of Ray-Ban Aviator sunglasses that was $400(AUD), the same as mine which I got 2 years ago. He always tells me he wants a pair and I told him to get it (but he's very lazy, so he never ended up getting it himself). Mine has green lenses and his one has a mirror lens but same model.
Approx 7 days ago, he left his sunnies at a friends house (which he told me), also that time my sunnies were sitting on the coffee table inside our home. 2 days ago, I went outside and it was very sunny and I went back and decided to grab my sunnies, it was missing. I checked everywhere for them and I know I haven't touched them at all.
So I thought I'll ask my brother when he's home the next day. The next day arrives, my brother comes home and I ask where the sunnies were and if he has taken them: he said no and he recalls it was on the table. I agreed but all of a sudden it's missing. I called my mum (cause sometimes she comes over and cleans a bit), she also recalled it was on the table. I asked him again, he got defensive and said he didn't take them and we had a massive fight about it.
Where I am getting at with this story, is that, this is not the first time he has taken my things without permission and he has lied about not taking it. He always lies about not taking it and we always fight about it.
For example;
1 - He has taken my reading glasses more than 6 times to work without my permission and I search around the home to find it, then all of a sudden either he comes home with it or it ends up in HIS ROOM!
2 - I purchase food, have left-overs and next day it's gone. He blames me that I ate it all when he's the one that ate it
3 - On a few occasions I had to hide chocolate in my room so he wouldn't eat it (he's a big guy, so he eats his food and my food). One day, half my chocolates were gone in my room. I confronted him, he lied saying I ate it all and that night when he went out, I looked at his room bin to see all the wrappers
4 - We have 2 bathrooms, he constantly "borrows" my shampoo and toothpaste when he runs out. On multiple occasions, my products are in his shower and I take it back. I confront him about taking my stuff and to tell me he's needs it. He lied and said "it's in your bathroom now" and I had to say: "that's because I HAD TO TAKE IT FROM YOUR BATHROOM!!!!"..... but he still lies and says he never takes it....
I can continue on but this is getting too long. He's very good at lying, I mean very good and he's been doing it for so long that even if I am right he will argue until he turns blue to be right.
My mum and I tried to have an intervention 1 year ago about his lying and in that intervention, he denied he lies a lot. Also, he had a girlfriend for approx 2 years, in that 2 years, she approached me arppox 4 times regarding if he's lying about certain situations and she wanted to know....
The sunnies just pushed me over the edge this time cause all this bottled up anger, deception, lies, petty fights just all came bursting out last night.
I just don't know what to do, I even went to a psychologist 2 times last year on how to deal with him lying but it only helped a bit......
Yesterday's incident pushed me over the edge and every bit of information was spat at my BROTHER for being a liar for majority of his life. What happened?
For Christmas I purchased him a pair of Ray-Ban Aviator sunglasses that was $400(AUD), the same as mine which I got 2 years ago. He always tells me he wants a pair and I told him to get it (but he's very lazy, so he never ended up getting it himself). Mine has green lenses and his one has a mirror lens but same model.
Approx 7 days ago, he left his sunnies at a friends house (which he told me), also that time my sunnies were sitting on the coffee table inside our home. 2 days ago, I went outside and it was very sunny and I went back and decided to grab my sunnies, it was missing. I checked everywhere for them and I know I haven't touched them at all.
So I thought I'll ask my brother when he's home the next day. The next day arrives, my brother comes home and I ask where the sunnies were and if he has taken them: he said no and he recalls it was on the table. I agreed but all of a sudden it's missing. I called my mum (cause sometimes she comes over and cleans a bit), she also recalled it was on the table. I asked him again, he got defensive and said he didn't take them and we had a massive fight about it.
Where I am getting at with this story, is that, this is not the first time he has taken my things without permission and he has lied about not taking it. He always lies about not taking it and we always fight about it.
For example;
1 - He has taken my reading glasses more than 6 times to work without my permission and I search around the home to find it, then all of a sudden either he comes home with it or it ends up in HIS ROOM!
2 - I purchase food, have left-overs and next day it's gone. He blames me that I ate it all when he's the one that ate it
3 - On a few occasions I had to hide chocolate in my room so he wouldn't eat it (he's a big guy, so he eats his food and my food). One day, half my chocolates were gone in my room. I confronted him, he lied saying I ate it all and that night when he went out, I looked at his room bin to see all the wrappers
4 - We have 2 bathrooms, he constantly "borrows" my shampoo and toothpaste when he runs out. On multiple occasions, my products are in his shower and I take it back. I confront him about taking my stuff and to tell me he's needs it. He lied and said "it's in your bathroom now" and I had to say: "that's because I HAD TO TAKE IT FROM YOUR BATHROOM!!!!"..... but he still lies and says he never takes it....
I can continue on but this is getting too long. He's very good at lying, I mean very good and he's been doing it for so long that even if I am right he will argue until he turns blue to be right.
My mum and I tried to have an intervention 1 year ago about his lying and in that intervention, he denied he lies a lot. Also, he had a girlfriend for approx 2 years, in that 2 years, she approached me arppox 4 times regarding if he's lying about certain situations and she wanted to know....
The sunnies just pushed me over the edge this time cause all this bottled up anger, deception, lies, petty fights just all came bursting out last night.
I just don't know what to do, I even went to a psychologist 2 times last year on how to deal with him lying but it only helped a bit......
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