Screwed the pooch; how do I go about fixing this

[Anonymous]

So...I said something I shouldn't have said to my best friend, and in an effort to apologize to her, I bought an apology card that you can write in. My parents know about what I said and after offering my best friend flowers as a token of my apology, my parents say it's "really uncool to give someone else's girlfriend flowers" (I'm gay, she's in a relationship with a man).

So, I don't think I can take it back...and my parents have shamed me enough.

The last time I said something that offended my best friend, I got her coffee and lunch (this was years ago). Things are a little different this time around and I feel that maybe flowers are saying too much, or saying too little?

What more can I do to apologize beyond a card and my word? (And flowers if it comes down to it).

[ceez]

Maybe take her out to lunch again or a shopping trip plus the card.

[matty7]

well you have apologised so I wouldn't crawl through broken glass if that person wont expect that your sincere - we all make mistakes and say things we don't always mean. As for the flowers....I personally don't think its too much to send flowers - if here boyfriend gets jealous of his girlfriend receiving them from a gay man then he has other issues - asking here to go for a coffee to let you explain yourself may go someway to make her understand you are truly sorry for your actions - but if she wont talk or listen then I would give her some space for a little while , maybe then she may contact you first when she's ready to hear you out

[LJay]

As long as it is understood that the flowers are part of an apology, it should be fine. You are not sending her flowers to court her. A note with the flowers saying, "I'm sorry for what happened." would be a good idea. It is all a matter of context.

Oh, and send the dog a tube of Preparation H for good measure. [joke]

[Anonymous]

Thanks y'all.

She thanked me for the flowers and the card, and we went out bike riding in a nature park near here. Afternoon well spent.

[AlohaShannon]

Glad that you were able to resolve things with her!

[Insertnamehere]

Thanks y'all.

She thanked me for the flowers and the card, and we went out bike riding in a nature park near here. Afternoon well spent.

Was about to say something and then I see all is good...

yup, the "meaning" of things is a personal matter, even though when something can have a generalized symbolism, it's still abiut the 2 people involved.

Glad she liked your apology gesture.

Do try and NOT make these necessary in the future

[tiff2600]

aawww sounds like this hada happy ending