Who chooses not to have a funeral?

[Cridders88]

One thing I forgot to add is if I do have a funeral, I wouldn't want a traditional one. I would want the religious element removed (which I understand actually is a lot of it). I am not remotely religious, I don't believe in any god, so to me I wouldn't want all the religious stuff said, because that would just be hypocritical in my eyes. Just an occasion where people can pay their respects if they wish.

[LONDONER]

Just an occasion where people can pay their respects if they wish.

I don't even want that. Just straight from the undertakers (not embalmed) to the crematorium. If my friends respect me they'll stay away!

[MickTheMousie]

Cremated, maybe spread in the ocean? or maybe i'll just have like one of those mini places only for mourns? i just dont want anything big

Sorry i ment urns not mourns xD

[VirgoMasquerade]

I want like 3 of them, Each in one city i liked in my lifetime. They would all be themed to stuff lol, Goth/masquerade, Drag and a nature theme

[LONDONER]

The other alternatve would be to bequeath your body to science and allow yourself to do something useful in your death.

I have a friend in Greece and she tells me that cremation is not allowed there because of the Greek Orthodox Church.

[LJay]

Roman Catholics are also not into cremation. It has to do with the "resurrection of the body" line in the creeds. It seems that God cant work with bone dust but needs more intact parts.

Having dealt with a lot of funerals because I play for church I can say that they are pretty much the same. They do serve the purpose of helping people to face the finality of death and the loss of a friend or relative. I think it can sometimes be a mistake not to observe that parting. I am seeing that in my own family right now. Whether it is a church funeral, a secular ceremony, a party or whatever, it can help the survivors. I do feel that a lot of what goes on in the funeral industry is hooey. A traditional service in the Episcopal tradition is a fairly stoic event and need not involve the syrupy, sentimental goings on that many think belong at funerals. One good way to keep things under control might be to request that there be no eulogizing. Sitting on the bench and not necessarily being personally involved, I have heard some really yucky stuff. Your mileage may vary.

[Insertnamehere]

it's a symbolic personal ritual that partly serves as a marker in one's life. if an event has significance for a person, it is not unnatural to want to symbolize it in one way or another. wedding is the same thing. people don't really need to throw some elaborate gathering to mark their personal relationship/commitment, but they do, and it is not unreasonable.

we are all also social beings, and these types of things are an expression of that social nature.

i'd rather people ritualize their personal life and events important to them, than external notions such as god in their life (which, unfortunately they have the tendency for). for this reason, national holidays and christmas, for example, mean nothing to me. the events with personal significance and importance are the ones to be celebrated. that's my opinion.

All I read from this, is that is meant for other people other than yourself. I don't give a shit about other people.

I dunno about Italia, but at least here both events you mentioned have an important religious component, which only puts me off of both even more.

I wonder if I can legally bind people to not throw such an event after I'm dead..

[mrex]

As if i could care less what happens after im dead...

[Emiliano]

I've definitely thought of donating my body to science if the circumstances of my death allow for that. I am an organ donor. The idea that my body might help someone else after Im dead is of some sort of comfort, I guess.

I dont mind the idea of my friends / family doing something to honor my life or whatever, but I wouldn't want them to spend a lot of money on it. I have been to several funerals, I think there is value in that coming together, and telling stories, and using such an event to find some sort of closure. I would never pass over the death of a loved one without doing something to mark their life.

[Genersis]

Organs to be donated.
Body donated to science.
Friends and family can decided what to do after that; but I would strongly hope they don't do the whole sombre, wear black, play over-dramatic music, and sob the whole time thing

Have a baking competition, help demolish a building, have a segue race; be inventive, just don't make it all about sadness and despair, for goodness sake...