Micropenis

[CellarDweller]

as someone once told me, "sex is like a swimming pool. It doesn't matter if you can reach the bottom, as long as you can scrape the sides."

[meridannight]

In my experience, it's not about what you have or don't have. It's about what you -DO- with what you have that counts. Skill can 100% make up for proportion.

It ain't the meat it's the motion.

as someone once told me, "sex is like a swimming pool. It doesn't matter if you can reach the bottom, as long as you can scrape the sides."

what if it's so small he can't penetrate? then there's nothing he can ''do'' with it other than receive head.

[TigerLover]

what if it's so small he can't penetrate? then there's nothing he can ''do'' with it other than receive head.

Exactly my concern. Having a small penis is one thing. But having a micropenis presents some very real 'mechanical' problems. No amount of self-esteem building or talk about the "motion of the ocean" can fix them.

Which is why I've got my fingers crosssed that he's either bottom or verse. So long as he's not an exclusive top he'll be fine. Personality, confidence and passion are far more important for any prospective partner worth a damn.

[BeCool]

Not an issue for me. Personality, eyes, teeth, and skin are more important to me.

I just wonder how small are we talking though? Smaller than my thumb?

Perhaps being up-front about it would be your best chance? Maybe try to find someone similar?

[InbetweenDreams]

Sometimes being up front can scare people away...that's just in general. On the other hand, depending on what it is you're looking for the folks who all are too concerned with penis size might not be the people you want to chase down either.

[max5656]

First, thank you all for your entries!

If you're a 6'8 muscle bound top. Then you've got a big problem.

I'm definitely not
Being a bottom is totally ok for me. But I'm affraid the other guy, even if he is a top, would want to... I don't know - to touch something bigger...

If you think about it, since penis size is largely genetically determined, you come from a long line of small dicked men, all of whom were able to find a partner and successfully have sex, culminating in the existence of you here today. So honor yourself and all your ancestors who worked with what they got.

Yeah, but don't you think women are more empathic etc.? or it's only a stereotype?

First post questions like this seem a bit off

I know, and sorry about that... But english isn't my native language and I can't write as good as I would like, so it takes a lot of time to write every entry.

i hope this helps a little. have you not found anybody at all, or have you not even tried because of this?

I haven't even tried because I was so depressed and anxious (Social anxiety disorder), but now I'm doing much better only this thing bothers me...

[InbetweenDreams]

First, thank you all for your entries!


I'm definitely not
Being a bottom is totally ok for me. But I'm affraid the other guy, even if he is a top, would want to... I don't know - to touch something bigger...


Yeah, but don't you think women are more empathic etc.? or it's only a stereotype?


I know, and sorry about that... But english isn't my native language and I can't write as good as I would like, so it takes a lot of time to write every entry.


I haven't even tried because I was so depressed and anxious (Social anxiety disorder), but now I'm doing much better only this thing bothers me...

Well in my opinion you don't have much to worry about if you are fine with being a bottom. Guys who are tops are going to be less concerned with it. Some might even see it as a turn on.

Women are a different breed of human. They're less promiscuous than men, so they're less worried about the physical.

Keep working on your social anxiety, exposure therapy does work, just do a little bit at a time...you don't throw a new swimming in the deep end and that works the same for anxiety.

[Camfer]

Well, I really think if you enjoy bottoming this isn't going to be a big issue for a lot of guys.

Now, let me tell you about the abalone technique. An abalone sucks itself so tightly to the sea bed that you really can't tell what's down there. You have to pry them off the rocks.

I discovered this was a sex technique when I dated that small-dicked guy who I'd surely date again. We had a fun night out and headed over to his place. Things started heating up and we headed to his bedroom. While I was leisurely undressing, I wasn't paying much attention. But I turned my head and *bam* he was already naked and flat on the bed, ass up. I don't know how he did that so fast. It was obvious where he wanted my attentions, and I obliged and we had a lot of fun. It wasn't until things really got going strong that I got any access to his front side. By that time we were having such fun that neither of us were thinking about his cock size. Or at least I wasn't and he was enjoying himself no matter what was going on in his head. It was a successful encounter for both of us, and we are still in touch regularly.

It was clear to me that he'd found a way to enjoy gay sex that was less cock-centric. I am confident that you can do the same.

A lot of guys get their idea of sex through pornography, and I think that is a mistake to do it. Most gay porn is very formulaic. It always starts with a blow job, moves onto some ass licking, then some anal sex, then an ejaculatory orgasm where the cum goes onto the other guy's chest, back, butt, or face. If you're lucky they actually smile at each other after that. Don't base your sexuality around this formula. While there's nothing wrong with it, it's very limiting.

[meridannight]

Being a bottom is totally ok for me. But I'm affraid the other guy, even if he is a top, would want to... I don't know - to touch something bigger...

well, we'd all like a scenario where the guy comes up for our own standards for cock size, circumcision, height, weight, hair color, etc etc. guys don't come pre-ordered like that. we don't always get what we'd like but that is not to say that we are getting something inferior in quality.

not to downplay it as far as to say that cock size doesn't matter at all, obviously it does, but it is not the only thing that matters and it is not the most important thing by far. everything most others have told you, is true. the chemistry, passion, and your character are, when you think about it, more essential. i'd much rather have sex with a man i like who has a micropenis, than with a guy i don't like who has a decent-sized cock. i don't even have to think about this.

and as far as touching goes, you have other parts a man wants to touch. your ass, arms, lips, thighs, nipples --- plenty of things to play with.

i very much concur with this:

Personality, confidence and passion are far more important for any prospective partner worth a damn.

[CorsacReborn]

Some of the replies on this thread just read to me as "it doesn't matter but it does" which ultimately means that people do worry about the size of a guys penis. Fair enough if someone is a bottom then it may be a bit of an issue but there are many different ways that people can explore each other and also there are aids like toys these days. If you met the perfect person but they had a micropenis would you ditch what could be the ideal relationship because of that one thing?

It all boils down to a society which has been taught that getting anything that's bigger (Car, House, Wages etc) actually means that it is best for them and satisfies them more, it doesn't help that we have porn now that shows the unrealistic expectation that all men should have 12 yard penises in order to satisfy the other person.

People have to educate themselves about the difference between wants and needs, this attitude that bigger is best is just a notion of what people want rather then what they actually need.