Is My Boyfriend on the DL? Help

[YouMeAndHe]

I'm a black female and have a black boyfriend of 2 years.. Total gentleman etc.. But recently while having sex he moaned and said "Yeah Nigga".. I'm so hurt because that's not normal for a straight black man to say to a woman.... Should I be worried... Please give advise...

[East]

It could be a fantasy. Straight men who have a fantasy about another are not likely to admit it to themselves...much less anyone else.

...and even with the fantasy...assuming that is the case....it still wouldn't make a straight guy gay...or even bi. It would depend on a lot of other things.....

You could look for other clues...but sometimes that backfires because basically when we have a suspicion and look for evidence to support it..sometimes we grab anything and interpret it to fit into what we want to believe when it may not be the case. I think that is normal for pretty much everyone....

I wish I had a better answer but the bottom line for me...I would just trust my gut....and if your gut it telling you something..pay attention!

Good Luck!

[Darius]

The only way to know for sure if he likes the cock is to stick your finger in his butt next time you have sex.

[Cuddly]

The only way to know for sure if he likes the cock is to stick your finger in his butt next time you have sex.

That's not true and not helpful!! *slap*

I don't really see why him moaning and saying yeah nigga has you worried. If you don't like him using the nword while you're fucking then tell him.

I would hesitate to call anything sex related "normal". People like different things. Maybe he was just trying to spicy things up or it just slipped out.

[TwisttheLeaf]

Are you sure it was "nigga" and not something like "NNNNnnn gah!" (fuckbabble for "oh god")

I would be a little worried to, to be honest, in your shoes.

[TigerLover]

Unless it's another person's name you really shouldn't worry too much about what a man says during climax.

All sorts of things happen during sex. The pleasure centers of the brain go crazy, the amygdala shuts down and of course there is the surge of neurological stimulants that makes sex so finger-licking good.

Really a man is not anymore himself during intense sex than he is while high on morphine.

[Darius]

That's not true and not helpful!! *slap*

I don't really see why him moaning and saying yeah nigga has you worried. If you don't like him using the nword while you're fucking then tell him.

I would hesitate to call anything sex related "normal". People like different things. Maybe he was just trying to spicy things up or it just slipped out.

Some people need to get a sense of humor.

[Darius]

I'm a black female and have a black boyfriend of 2 years.. Total gentleman etc.. But recently while having sex he moaned and said "Yeah Nigga".. I'm so hurt because that's not normal for a straight black man to say to a woman.... Should I be worried... Please give advise...

Forgive my white ignorance, but is calling someone a nigga something a male uses only for another male? A black male would never call a female that? It's strictly a masculine term?

[Darius]

Are you sure it was "nigga" and not something like "NNNNnnn gah!" (fuckbabble for "oh god")

I would be a little worried to, to be honest, in your shoes.

If I were you, I'd be worried if Gideon started saying "ya nigga" to me, too. Haha

[Darius]

Are you sure it was "nigga" and not something like "NNNNnnn gah!" (fuckbabble for "oh god")

I would be a little worried to, to be honest, in your shoes.

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