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I discovered I was gay after being married. I guess I should have known but I suppressed everything until over hearing about hookup sites. Curiosity got the best of me and I went from browsing gay porn and occasionally checking out hookup sites to actually meeting up with another guy a couple months ago. It was the most erotic experience of my life. I've never been so aroused. At the very end of the experience he came in my mouth and it was everything I've ever fantasized about. All I can think about is hooking up and blowing another guy. I love my wife but I also have this desire. I wish I could tell her and have her be understanding to my fetish.
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That's definitely a catch 22. If you do love your wife and you don't want to walk away from that and also assuming that you have a satisfying sexual relationship then don't leave, or don't be too hasty about it.
I mean it would seem that this is a first for you? Might be more erotic for a number of reasons, not because you're 100% gay or want to end up with a husband.
A lot of guys who identify as straight experiment. I think that is normal, whether we settle down with wives or husbands is the bigger picture.
I think you might want to elaborate about your marriage, are you being fulfilled? I am assuming that's no the case?
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Your wife has a right to know you are not fully straight, especially because you are having sex outside your relationship. You don't want her to find out when you bring home an STD, do you?
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I never fully understood how one "discovers" he's gay after so many years. At first I didn't believe it until a friend of mine told me his story.
As for your situation, I don't think referring to your attraction to guys as fetish is helping. Telling your wife about it would definitely be a fair thing to do, but let's not fool ourselves - she won't stand for it and will probably leave you. I'd leave you, to be honest.
Even if she gets over the fact that you cheated, realizing you're bisexual(at least) is just too much for women.
Anyhow, there's no easy way around this, it's either you just stick to your wife and family and stop screwing around or you just be honest and leave her.
I dated a married guy once and never again. Being a "gay victim" is a really really horrible thing.
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I would suggest individual and family counseling for your journey...
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When exactly did this stuff get labeled a "journey"?
You owe it to your partner to divulge your "fetish." Keep it in your pants or be honest. No ifs ands or buts. You did take on that responsibility, after all.
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Yes. I apologize if I was too presumptuous. If you didn't know about married guy's nuptial journey, then you're not a whore.
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Did you know the guy was married?
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I'm married
