(Warning raw words) Strong urges. Need advice about Sex / Masturbation

[LJay]

A. [MENTION=24180]Tom358[/MENTION], just where are these meetup groups??

B. [MENTION=23180]axle2152[/MENTION], great idea unless you grew up with my big brother who could crack any padlock ever made OR chew the end of a toolbox off.

[InbetweenDreams]

[MENTION=20933]LJay[/MENTION] well I doubt there is a one size fits all solution...

[Darius]

[MENTION=20933]LJay[/MENTION] well I doubt there is a one size fits all solution...

Axle, are you talking about dicks or tool boxes?

[InbetweenDreams]

Axle, are you talking about dicks or tool boxes?

In this case...toolboxes and putting padlocks on them lol

[LJay]

Having your sex toys in a discrete location--I do like the box idea--not only keeps them from prying eyes. It allows you to have everything at reach when you want to use them.

OP, now that you have your own apartment, you are free to arrange it as you like. Having a nice safe place for these things from the very beginning is a good idea. Enjoy your freedom and your private life.

[TigerLover]

Hey OP it's the most natural thing in the world. Even straight guys shove things where the sun doesn't shine, just ask anyone who works in an ER. So a young gay guy doing it surprises no one.

Though I agree with the others in the thread it's time to upgrade to some toys or the real thing. Shoving random objects in yourself is dangerous.

[MikeW]

... It was as if a horny demon or something posessed me, and it was one of those moments that I felt like being gay wasn't really a choise... Because who in hell would choose to wake up 2 at night wanting to shove a broom shaft into your arsehole.

My question being is: Is it normal for you / others to get those kinds of explosive sexual urges, where it feels as if there is nothing in this world that might stop it? I've been horny many times but I've never felt this extreme need of sexual satisfaction, and It felt so alien to me. Is this how sex might build up to? ...

Oh my word! Nothing like a 26yo virgin gay boy in heat!! Is it "normal"... well... yes and no. I mean, I doubt you're going to feel that way all the time, or every night at 2AM. But by having your own place and privacy you've begun to unlock your passion. You closed the drapes, stipped down, and let yourself FEEL sexual energy. It felt good. You took that to bed with you, sleeping naked, unbound by pajamas, further liberating your (mostly pre-conscious) libido. You woke up and felt driven to take all this a step further and do something you've never done before... even if it wasn't with the ideal tool. Is it normal? Fuck, yeah, dude, you're feeling the intensity of your sexuality. Your physical passion. It's better than normal, it's fantastic.

It's about time. And, not knowing you at all, I'd say its about time you broke free of whatever is holding you back, keeping you "virgin."

It's too bad you live on the other side of the planet from me. I'd happily show you the ropes, and give you the time of your life (up to this point, anyway) doing it. I did this for a total virgin 20 something just last week. He's still on cloud 9 trying to integrate within himself the knowledge that he has NOW done things that ADULT MEN do with one another. We spent the whole night together... and what was very interesting to me was how SENSITIVE he was. I've never seen anything like it.... the slightest touch sent shudders through his body. I asked him if it was as good as he'd imagined and he said it was far better than he could ever HAVE imagined.

"First times" are different for everyone. Some people can jump into the deep end of the pool, so to say, but they usually do that earlier in life. You probably need a guiding hand of some sort, someone who knows you're a virgin and is totally fine with that. Some guys like to wait and 'go at it' with someone who has little more experience than themselves. Sometimes that works. Other times it's an awkward disaster.

Lue of inviting you to America, I think many here would be happy to virtually hold your hand while you step out of your chaste 'comfort z0ne'.

[kindy64]

Yep, totally "normal" in that, yes it happens. Doesn't happen as often anymore, but it still happens.

[Tom358]

A. [MENTION=24180]Tom358[/MENTION], just where are these meetup groups??

B. [MENTION=23180]axle2152[/MENTION], great idea unless you grew up with my big brother who could crack any padlock ever made OR chew the end of a toolbox off.

Sorry for the late response...

I recently signed up to a few online groups that arrange activities where you can meet people socially.

meetup. com & outdoorlads. com

I've been to an event with both of them now and although I've not felt entirely comfortable I do feel like it's helping my socially. I'm just trying to push myself to try new things.

However, much like the OP, my sex drive is at a new high and I'm desperate for a more physical experience (to put it politely).

[LJay]

[MENTION=24180]Tom358[/MENTION], Good for you, man! I have looked through the local meetups and can't find one that I want to try out. A lot of them seem like hetero lonely hearts clubs or too technical. I'll keep looking.

Glad it is helping you to get out. That is the real trick. More contact with other folks means more chance of meeting some you like. Best of luck!

PS: Do the schoolboys in your county kid about making Worcestershire sauce when they have a circle jerk?