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princealbertofb Wrote:No, well, I did mean prominent, not overbearing... lol. I know what you're saying, Deephiance, but how do you get them in without alienating them? And do you mean lesbian or bi women?
deephiance Wrote:It really doesn't matter what their sexuality or gender identity is, it would just be nice to have more females.
I really don't think there is any real solution, but alienating women is a predominantly male forum is alienating enough without adding an AO section that I feel not only would women have no interest, but could also feel intimidate by.
I mother seeking advice about a child for example may balk at adults only...and in my honest opinion, I think they already do with some of the male dominate body threads.
I'm not saying they are bad, I don't participate in them for my own personal reasons, I am saying they could deter ladies.
I remember there was a time there are a lot of female members, to a degree that you can't really say it's a "male-dominant" forum, and at that time I don't feel like there was any alienation between members. (Although once a female member mistaken my words as an insult to women and it didn't end up well , probably because I didn't express myself well-enough in English)
But I'm not sure why most of them are not active right now.
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seeking Wrote:I remember there was a time there are a lot of female members, to a degree that you can't really say it's a "male-dominant" forum, and at that time I don't feel like there was any alienation between members. (Although once a female member mistaken my words as an insult to women and it didn't end up well , probably because I didn't express myself well-enough in English)
But I'm not sure why most of them are not active right now.
Yes I can because it is a fact that this is and always has been dominated with mostly male members. There have been some very active women posting a lot, Rainbowmum and Pix are 2 that jump out at me. Just need to look at the top 15 posters of all time.
Female
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Collectively perhaps we should work out why the ladies are not so active or tempted to joining the forum and then we can perhaps find a solution.
I have always found the advice of a women/motherly figure to be greater and usually the best advice given.
We also don't have many with gender identity issues active and I would really love to hear from them as well, I still have a lot to learn and let's face it, us males are crap teachers because men usually feel threatened by other men who give good advice and go on the defensive.
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deephiance Wrote:prominant, not predominant.
The forum needs MORE females
I can't agree with that.
Huge charm that this site has is because it's a men only forum, for all intents and purposes. Everywhere else on the internet there are men and females together on a forum. Here, there are no females. And that needs to stay the way it is.
I will leave if this ever changes.
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meridannight Wrote:I can't agree with that.
Huge charm that this site has is because it's a men only forum, for all intents and purposes. Everywhere else on the internet there are men and females together on a forum. Here, there are no females. And that needs to stay the way it is.
I will leave if this ever changes.
Interesting theory.
Especially when you consider the top poster, Rainbowmum IS female, Pix is still very active and IS female and then there is
'Health & Sex - Ladies'
'Relationships - Ladies'
Still here?
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deephiance Wrote:Interesting theory.
Especially when you consider the top poster, Rainbowmum IS female, Pix is still very active and IS female and then there is
'Health & Sex - Ladies'
'Relationships - Ladies'
Still here?
I said 'for all intents and purposes'. One or two of them is as good as none. I can ignore them easily.
Rainbowmum has never been active while I've been on the forum. At least I haven't seen her once. Pix is around sometimes, but it's not difficult to ignore one person.
And those forums you quote -- they saw most of their action before 2015.
So, yes, for all intents and purposes there are zero females here. If that changes, I will leave, yes.
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The women who used to post here left to go to sites with naked guys with throbbing erections.
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deephiance Wrote:Yes I can because it is a fact that this is and always has been dominated with mostly male members. There have been some very active women posting a lot, Rainbowmum and Pix are 2 that jump out at me. Just need to look at the top 15 posters of all time.
Female
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
male
Collectively perhaps we should work out why the ladies are not so active or tempted to joining the forum and then we can perhaps find a solution.
I have always found the advice of a women/motherly figure to be greater and usually the best advice given.
We also don't have many with gender identity issues active and I would really love to hear from them as well, I still have a lot to learn and let's face it, us males are crap teachers because men usually feel threatened by other men who give good advice and go on the defensive.
Wasn't challenging your wording there, just merely stating there was a time there were many active female members that the forum feels not male dominant. ie The forum isn't always like what it feels right now.
I personally would welcome more female members too.
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seeking Wrote:Wasn't challenging your wording there, just merely stating there was a time there were many active female members that the forum feels not male dominant. ie The forum isn't always like what it feels right now.
I personally would welcome more female members too.
I see that you have changed the wording of your original post which kind of makes my reply mute
It's all good.
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[MENTION=24118]deephiance[/MENTION], do you not mean "moot" instead of "mute?"
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LJay Wrote:[MENTION=24118]deephiance[/MENTION], do you not mean "moot" instead of "mute?"
No, I would have written that if that is what I meant. Perhaps you would have prefered I typed 'silent'?
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