Would you try to contact Your boyfriend through his brother?

[Baslero]

Hi guys, I know it's a tupid question but I need to have a bit of perspective here...
The thing is that after a quarrel through SMS (I was traveling) I wasn't able to talk or chat with my boyfriend for 14 days. He doesn't answer my calls and he ignores my messages.He "punished" me like this before but never for such a long time. I understand he wants to finish the relationship without having to go through the burden of giving explanations So I already gave up on asking him about the reasons but there are some practic facts ( money) i need to discuss with him. Would you try to contact him throug his brother? I don't have a very deep relationship with him, only talked with him when my boyfriend was present, but we used to have quite honest conversations.
Thank you guys for your opinion.

[Dan1980]

It's a bit childish punishing you by not answering your calls or texts. You said you wanted to talk about money. If it's that important there is no harm in asking your boyfriends brother to get him to call you. If he does want to end your relationship he has to face the burden and talk to you.

[cormeum]

Normally I would advise to let other people out of your relationship but if that's the only way to contact him then what else is there for you to do, I guess.

[deephiance]

I wouldn't involve anyone else.

I would go to the nearest hardware store, buy the biggest sledge hammer and go round to his house and smash his fucking door in, then stand in the doorway with the splintered remains of the door, smile and ask 'Are you ready to talk yet?'

But that's just me

[Zen]

I wouldn't involve anyone else.

I would go to the nearest hardware store, buy the biggest sledge hammer and go round to his house and smash his fucking door in, then stand in the doorway with the splintered remains of the door, smile and ask 'Are you ready to talk yet?'

But that's just me

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[RomanticMan]

Hi guys, I know it's a tupid question but I need to have a bit of perspective here...
The thing is that after a quarrel through SMS (I was traveling) I wasn't able to talk or chat with my boyfriend for 14 days. He doesn't answer my calls and he ignores my messages.He "punished" me like this before but never for such a long time. I understand he wants to finish the relationship without having to go through the burden of giving explanations So I already gave up on asking him about the reasons but there are some practic facts ( money) i need to discuss with him. Would you try to contact him throug his brother? I don't have a very deep relationship with him, only talked with him when my boyfriend was present, but we used to have quite honest conversations.
Thank you guys for your opinion.

if it's not a big amount money and you have enough money to make living, I think you dont have to ask for money you lent or something else.

[Baslero]

3000 francs.
its not like im going to starve to death if he doesn't pay me back..., but its more a matter of pride...

[CorsacReborn]

3000 francs.
its not like im going to starve to death if he doesn't pay me back..., but its more a matter of pride...

Regardless of the amount, you deserve YOUR money back.

Do you have anything in writing (even a text or email) saying that this is a loan to be paid back? If so you can use this as leverage to force him to pay back as its evidence should you need to go further.

[Bookworm]

I would try not to involve anyone else at this stage if it were me. He may have already preempted this move by you and spoken with his brother anyway and given him 'his side' of the story.
Personally, I'd be going round to his house to discuss this face to face like grown ups. This would clearly wrong foot him as he doesn't want to see you and may give you some advantage in the discussions to get your money back.

[Baslero]

Well, i finally found the courage and wrote to his brother. I told him I needed to talk to him because there was things to sort out and clarify between us, but I didn't tell him he owed me money. And his response really puzzled me. He said that he talked to my ex boyfriend and he loved me. That he said he loved me and that he could see it...
at this point I stopped trying to get in touch with him...