My bro finds me ladies!

[IanSaysHi]

OR you could give your brother's phone number to random people and tell them that he is 'looking for someone'

I lol'd .

[RomanticMan]

I have always thought this is fucked up behaviour because it is controlling.

You need to have a chat with your brother, explain to him that you don't believe that the right person for you will be found through blind dating people he chooses and that you will date someone when the time is right.

OR you could give your brother's phone number to random people and tell them that he is 'looking for someone'

the second one would be amazing and fun but he's already married LOL.

[RomanticMan]

I think it would be better if Romantic Man could find the right words to tell him why his brother needs to stop sending him girls.

I think I might go with this, because I know that he'll just keep doing the same sh*t again and again. Even I'm 23, this is the 4rt time. I know he's not ready to hear, and I'm not ready and not willing to tell so LOL. but I dont know maybe I should tell him.

[RomanticMan]

Is he homophobic?

Wish I could know

[deephiance]

the second one would be amazing and fun but he's already married LOL.

BUT....wouldn't that make it more fun???

[RomanticMan]

People try to set me up with guys (which is obviously a good thing, i.e. guys are my type), but I'm not really looking for anyone right now. I know it's not quite the same but various people ask why I'm not seeing anyone, or that they've got a gay friend who I should meet up with (because obviously being gay means we're a 100% match <insert eye roll here>), or try to set me up with someone. They don't seem to understand that for me right now life is much better being single and I can be quite happy not being in a relationship! So I just tell them I'm too independent, or I need to focus on my career right now and I don't have the time. I think it's just finding that reason you can give your brother, and give it quite firmly, to get him off your back until you come out (if you can).

I think I'm against matchmakers. even if in a free world, I would wanna date someone I personally and naturally meet. for the other way, it seems a bit different to me.
Yeah they also asked me these questions in an INTERROGATING way like ''get a gf anymore, you'll die alone''. and I just told them to shut the topic down and they told me they were sorry for me because im alone (how tactful!).

Yeah actually, life could even be easier without parner, some articles support singles are happier than married ones. but here culture is a bit different, they ALL expect you to get married, have children and get a house and a car.
I'm currently thinking of coming out but not sure and scared.

[RomanticMan]

BUT....wouldn't that make it more fun???

and that's a very good reason his wife to start a fight against me LOL

[Camfer]

How about something like this: "Hey, I really appreciate the concern that you have for me your little brother, but I really prefer that you not be a matchmaker for me. If ever I meet someone who's good for me, you can be sure I'll pursue it. In the meantime, I am focused on other things. How's the wife and kids?"

[RomanticMan]

How about something like this: "Hey, I really appreciate the concern that you have for me your little brother, but I really prefer that you not be a matchmaker for me. If ever I meet someone who's good for me, you can be sure I'll pursue it. In the meantime, I am focused on other things. How's the wife and kids?"

What he does is only entertain himself but saddens others. Now I havent answered the message sent by that lady, and which was a rude of me. It saddens her because she might think she was ugly rather than me being gay. and I feel guilty about it. and she took back her friendship request. But I had to do it like that!

Rather than passing the topic like this, I want a certain conctete thing to stop him. and I hate my country's people because they LOVE being matchmaker. this is literally the 4th time. I never had a gf untill this age and that woodenhead brother still keeps suggesting me girls and asking me about girls.

I dont even understand how people find that courage to interfere with other's lives.

[RomanticMan]

How about something like this: "Hey, I really appreciate the concern that you have for me your little brother, but I really prefer that you not be a matchmaker for me. If ever I meet someone who's good for me, you can be sure I'll pursue it. In the meantime, I am focused on other things. How's the wife and kids?"

and this situation makes me angry for real. and all I wanna do riht now is to call him and first asking ''you suggested this girl, didnt you?'' and he'll probably say yes.

Then I'm going to answer him '' So you deserved it, I like men, I'm gay and I'm proud of it. So find me a man rather than a woman, and even if i marry, the gender of my partner will be male and find a man and come to my wedding then! ''

I want to say all things that will drive him crazy. Enough is enough.