I'm very new, new to the site and to being with guys

[SmallBowls]

I'm Matt (not my real name but cant use real name).

It's nice to meet you all.

I'm very new to being into this whole thing.

I find myself testing my situation but then regretting how I test my boundaries.

I find myself ashamed of how I spend my time. I'm ashamed of my urges.

Fortunately I'm learning to forgive myself because I'm human afterall.

I'd love to talk to anyone and everyone about anything.

I'm fun to talk to. I promise. Or atleast I can fake it pretty well, and you'd never know the difference.

[a4b2c]

Hi Matt. Welcome to the forum.

[SmallBowls]

Hi Matt. Welcome to the forum.

Thanks for the reply!

I'm glad to be here!

[TwisttheLeaf]

Hey man, welcome to GS.

You said...

I find myself testing my situation but then regretting how I test my boundaries.
I find myself ashamed of how I spend my time. I'm ashamed of my urges.

Are you talking about sexually, or in general? This would be a good topic for a thread.

I look forward to seeing you around.

[Darius]

Hi Matt. What's at the top of your list of things to discuss?

[Scootaloo]

[SmallBowls]

Hey man, welcome to GS.

You said...


Are you talking about sexually, or in general? This would be a good topic for a thread.

I look forward to seeing you around.

I've been testing my boundaries sexually, which usually results in shame and regret in the activities I just hours prior surrounded myself in willingly.

I dont know, at the time I find myself gladly indulging in things, but afterwards I feel ashamed.

Not sure if that makes sense?

[Alvin]

Hi, SmallBowls. Welcome to GS.

[TwisttheLeaf]

I've been testing my boundaries sexually, which usually results in shame and regret in the activities I just hours prior surrounded myself in willingly.

I dont know, at the time I find myself gladly indulging in things, but afterwards I feel ashamed.

Not sure if that makes sense?

It makes sense.

Ashamed because you feel shame concerning your sexual orientation? or ashamed for another reason? is it because of certain acts in particular? Because you were taught certain things are wrong and you're trying to step past those teachings?

I guess I'm asking, where does the shame come from?

[Cuddly]

You cannot change your urges or your sexual orientation. You only have one life and it's yours to do with as you please. Fuck what others may think. (In reality, they probably don't care at all!!)

Don't be ashamed. Being gay is not wrong. Having anal sex is not wrong. Just... play safe. STDs are bad.