can a bottom become a top?
07-07-2009, 08:11 PM
I don't know what I am really. Here's a background:
In my first relationship we both fucked each other occasionally it was just sort of what we wanted in the moment. I loved fucking him and equally liked it when he fucked me. This was also the only boyfriend I had that I was truly in love with.
In my second relationship I was strictly a top. I enjoyed it but I left him because he never treated me like his equal and the relationship was so one sided. He was also very effeminate.
I had some hookups between my second relationship and my third one. In these hookups I met with guys that were strictly tops so I always bottomed.
In my third relationship, we only had anal sex a couple times. The first time I bottomed for him; but told him I was versatile. We later tried me fucking him but I couldn't stay hard. In honesty I wasn't too attracted to him in the first place.
So this past weekend I met this amazing guy. From the moment I met him, even though we had agreed to meet as just platonic friends, I knew that I wanted to be with him in some way. I was so attracted to him and felt feelings I had that were similar to feelings I had when I met my first boyfriend. We spent two nights together making out cuddling but as we got to talking he said that he was not ready for a relationship at all but that he liked me a lot. We said that we barely know each other and that we need to take things super slow and not give a name to our friendship/relationship. When the subject of sexual preference came up I told him that I've recently been bottoming for my partners. He said that we was a bottom too and I got so bummed because I thought that it wasn't going to work out between us. He asked me if two bottoms can really be in a relationship together.
So I'm just thinking to myself, what am I exactly? I really like this guy and I'm so attracted to him, should I try topping him when the occasion comes?
My feelings for him are so incredible and I just don't know what to do.
In my first relationship we both fucked each other occasionally it was just sort of what we wanted in the moment. I loved fucking him and equally liked it when he fucked me. This was also the only boyfriend I had that I was truly in love with.
In my second relationship I was strictly a top. I enjoyed it but I left him because he never treated me like his equal and the relationship was so one sided. He was also very effeminate.
I had some hookups between my second relationship and my third one. In these hookups I met with guys that were strictly tops so I always bottomed.
In my third relationship, we only had anal sex a couple times. The first time I bottomed for him; but told him I was versatile. We later tried me fucking him but I couldn't stay hard. In honesty I wasn't too attracted to him in the first place.
So this past weekend I met this amazing guy. From the moment I met him, even though we had agreed to meet as just platonic friends, I knew that I wanted to be with him in some way. I was so attracted to him and felt feelings I had that were similar to feelings I had when I met my first boyfriend. We spent two nights together making out cuddling but as we got to talking he said that he was not ready for a relationship at all but that he liked me a lot. We said that we barely know each other and that we need to take things super slow and not give a name to our friendship/relationship. When the subject of sexual preference came up I told him that I've recently been bottoming for my partners. He said that we was a bottom too and I got so bummed because I thought that it wasn't going to work out between us. He asked me if two bottoms can really be in a relationship together.
So I'm just thinking to myself, what am I exactly? I really like this guy and I'm so attracted to him, should I try topping him when the occasion comes?
My feelings for him are so incredible and I just don't know what to do.
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