12-16-2020, 12:58 AM
I think most people (gay, straight, or otherwise) assume when they see a couple the shorter/smaller guy must be a bottom, and in general I've noticed most men assume smaller stature guys are bottoms. For awhile I used to hold a similar view point but over time I've actually come to the opposite preference!
I prefer it when the larger/bigger/taller/more muscular guy is bottom :]
To be clear, I'm quite versatile (best partners are where we switch roles almost every time) and don't really associate to any role (top, bottom). In fact I hate the forced dichotomy which seems like a lot of people still follow based on my experience on Grindr and Tinder.
But I find it much hotter if the bigger guy bottoms:
1. Being inside/topping someone makes me feel very secure with them, it almost feels like I'm just cuddling them as close as physically possible. It feels like they are protected me. So it feels amazing when the bottom is someone stronger and taller than me.
2. It's a great reversal of expectations (which makes things hot because it's unexpected/taboo). I've seen porn and sigh because 99% of the time the bottom is the small/twink guy and the top is the muscular guy--incredibly boring. Hottest scenes involve the smaller/twink guy topping the muscular jock :].
3. Bottoming can sometimes be hard on the body and I think takes a lot more practice/skill to get comfortable with it. So when a bigger guy goes out of his way to bottom, it feels like he's showing he cares/loves me a lot.
4. I think it's kind of gross there's all these men who assume little twink guys just want to bottom for them.
5. Finally, it feels like it's straightness being forced onto gay people. In most straight couples the girl is much smaller than the guy. Feels very unoriginal and unimaginative to just assume it carries over.
Anyway I think most people would strongly disagree (and Porn says so as well, but it's okay real life is always more exciting than the fake stuff), and a lot of these preferences are developed over many years of experience and experimenting, so there's no real wrong preference I think. But the real message is people should not assume just because a guy is small he must prefer bottoming, or if a guy is tall and muscular he only wants to top.
I prefer it when the larger/bigger/taller/more muscular guy is bottom :]
To be clear, I'm quite versatile (best partners are where we switch roles almost every time) and don't really associate to any role (top, bottom). In fact I hate the forced dichotomy which seems like a lot of people still follow based on my experience on Grindr and Tinder.
But I find it much hotter if the bigger guy bottoms:
1. Being inside/topping someone makes me feel very secure with them, it almost feels like I'm just cuddling them as close as physically possible. It feels like they are protected me. So it feels amazing when the bottom is someone stronger and taller than me.
2. It's a great reversal of expectations (which makes things hot because it's unexpected/taboo). I've seen porn and sigh because 99% of the time the bottom is the small/twink guy and the top is the muscular guy--incredibly boring. Hottest scenes involve the smaller/twink guy topping the muscular jock :].
3. Bottoming can sometimes be hard on the body and I think takes a lot more practice/skill to get comfortable with it. So when a bigger guy goes out of his way to bottom, it feels like he's showing he cares/loves me a lot.
4. I think it's kind of gross there's all these men who assume little twink guys just want to bottom for them.
5. Finally, it feels like it's straightness being forced onto gay people. In most straight couples the girl is much smaller than the guy. Feels very unoriginal and unimaginative to just assume it carries over.
Anyway I think most people would strongly disagree (and Porn says so as well, but it's okay real life is always more exciting than the fake stuff), and a lot of these preferences are developed over many years of experience and experimenting, so there's no real wrong preference I think. But the real message is people should not assume just because a guy is small he must prefer bottoming, or if a guy is tall and muscular he only wants to top.