10-10-2024, 08:31 PM
Hello.
I am feeling super embarassed while writing this. I am a gay male Scorpio in my very late 30s, so I am expected to be a mature guy (which I am obviously not). And secondly, I am supposed to be aware how risky and unreliable the online dating is.
I was chatting for few months with a Gemini guy who is a few years younger than me and who lives in a different country. We met via reliable online platform. What a sweet guy he is, the sweetest I might say. Super handsome and professionally super successful. We chatted a lot as you might imagine, we had quite a few wonderful video chats. Looked like we were a good click and we both wanted to meet in person. Not a problem. I am currently on a gap year so travelling is not an issue.Everything was fine with our communication, he even said that I could stay in his place once we meet. But then things started changing- once I got more serious about our meeting in real life he seemed to start drifting away. Firstly he said that I should book my acommodation somewhere else, in case things between us don't work, which initially shocked me- after all we had a wonderful click and he suggested me to stay at his place. So, it looks like the more serious I was becoming about meeting him, the further he drifted away. I demonstrated what I consider healthy interest and gave him a lot of space. But he got more and more detached. This continued for a little while, until I told him online that I don't want to risk ending up in a foreign country with a guy who might not b into me. His response was short and very superficial, avoiding any answers and conflict situation. Tried to speak with him about what is wrong but in vain.
We are not in touch anymore- the question is what I did wrong?Did I scared him with my reliability? My mind is overanalysing this experience and I am in agony- I can't move on, There are so many why, why,whys... I am sorry if my writing doesn't make sense- firstly English is not my native language and secondly the whole experience is messy. Please, answer me.
Forever Yours: The Scorpio.
I am feeling super embarassed while writing this. I am a gay male Scorpio in my very late 30s, so I am expected to be a mature guy (which I am obviously not). And secondly, I am supposed to be aware how risky and unreliable the online dating is.
I was chatting for few months with a Gemini guy who is a few years younger than me and who lives in a different country. We met via reliable online platform. What a sweet guy he is, the sweetest I might say. Super handsome and professionally super successful. We chatted a lot as you might imagine, we had quite a few wonderful video chats. Looked like we were a good click and we both wanted to meet in person. Not a problem. I am currently on a gap year so travelling is not an issue.Everything was fine with our communication, he even said that I could stay in his place once we meet. But then things started changing- once I got more serious about our meeting in real life he seemed to start drifting away. Firstly he said that I should book my acommodation somewhere else, in case things between us don't work, which initially shocked me- after all we had a wonderful click and he suggested me to stay at his place. So, it looks like the more serious I was becoming about meeting him, the further he drifted away. I demonstrated what I consider healthy interest and gave him a lot of space. But he got more and more detached. This continued for a little while, until I told him online that I don't want to risk ending up in a foreign country with a guy who might not b into me. His response was short and very superficial, avoiding any answers and conflict situation. Tried to speak with him about what is wrong but in vain.
We are not in touch anymore- the question is what I did wrong?Did I scared him with my reliability? My mind is overanalysing this experience and I am in agony- I can't move on, There are so many why, why,whys... I am sorry if my writing doesn't make sense- firstly English is not my native language and secondly the whole experience is messy. Please, answer me.
Forever Yours: The Scorpio.