coming out to my mom

[Mr.Dude]

My parents are the same way. Well my mom is my dad is deployed atm and it never comes up as a topic when he calls or anything. They went to great pains to tell me that they loved me no matter what but no boyfriends in the house etc. My mo mcan be kind of funny with her responses to such matters but its hard to tell precisely where she stands because of it. Like Im sure they think its a phase and such whereas I dont really care either way but they insist that I should care to or something I get a bit lost in it. I know that I believed theyd take it way worse and I wasnt planning to tell them but my mom found out because she used my computer history and she took it bad but ultimately not as badly as I thought. I get the sense that theyd support me through whatever though so its all good.

[mikey12561]

Wow your stories are awesome. Shucks I remember when I came out to my mom. It wasn't the simplest thing to be honest. She happened to get on my computer one day and that is when it happened. I was planning on hooking up with some guy and she happened to see my list of things to do with him. Yeah end of the world there. The whole spew about it being wrong and all that bull crap.

She then found out again when I had a boyfriend and he came over and stayed the night with me. That was worse. She didn't catch us doing anything but she asked me and I was like hell yeah lol. She wasn't to excited either.

I told her I will go straight for her lol well little did she know on my Senior year I planned to have a guy as my prom date. He was just my friend but we don't talk anymore.

[ヒトツ]

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im not out to my parents yet, only my friends...

T-T my mum would be allgood with it but my dad would be like
RRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[snoopy]

some good stuff in this thread mile:

[peterinmalaga]

I had to come out to my sons. They were 17 and 19 at the time. J had to rush off to the loo (toilet). That's his standard reaction to anything that panics him a bit and L was fine. I was lucky in that they both had gay friends. It took a while for them to get their heads round it properly but in some ways it has brought us closer together – not everybody has a deviant dad! Now J is wondering if his son is gay – he's only 5.

[fjp999]

lol, seems J is in the toilet a LOT :eek:

[marshlander]

Hmm, yes, coming out to my father and my children fun times :eek:

[J A Y]

Never mind the people you come out to being accepting - a lot of you guys seem to be really acceptant of their reactions. I would be really devastated if my parents told me they wouldn't be happy if I had a boyfriend. But thats cos I'm so close to them; I sometimes quite naively picture being with a boyfriend in the company of my family, just like my sister is with her boyfriend. But I suppose thats alot to ask. Or is it? I dunno lol. Man this stuff is tough. I've honestly never thought about coming out to my family as much in my life as I have this week. And its terrible, I feel like an emotional wreck. Its like there's never gonna be a right time. I wanna stop the world for a few days so I can have time to do it or even think about it. Everything in my life is so hectic right now, and the idea of coming out seems so selfish to me. I got into some really bad shit about 3 years back and I feel like we're (my family and I) only getting over that now, and to come out would seem like I was demanding attention or something. But it's really tearin me up at the moment. I'm so confused about it. And the sad part is, I'm not even as worried about how they'll react as I am about how I'll feel afterwards. I worry. Alot. And even if they said they were ok with it I think I'd probably manage to convince myself they weren't. Like they'd stopped loving me or something. God my head is such a mess about this. And it's really hard to have noone to talk to about it... Sorry, I realise I'm moaning alot and possibly tearing down the upbeat vibes of these happy tales lol. Who knows maybe one day I can add to those. Right now though... that just seems impossible.

[fjp999]

[COLOR="Purple"]Hey JAY, dont worry about what mood the thread may or may not be in... go ahead and try out your ideas on GS. Sometimes it helps just to put it out there. If youre lucky someone may have some good advice but just putting your minds thoughts in a narrative often times helps me...

It sounds like there is not a chance of your parents kicking you out or something like that... so, for me, I would go for it. Seems that youre going to beat yourself up if you do or dont so do and see where it takes you all.

If you are as close as you say/think then if you keep stressing out after coming out then it would seem that you and your family would be able to at least discuss things.

Many have found that writing a letter to the person your coming out to is helpful - even if you sit there while they read it... then you can go over exactly what you want to say without messing it up.

Best of luck [/COLOR]

[marshlander]

... I worry. Alot. And even if they said they were ok with it I think I'd probably manage to convince myself they weren't. Like they'd stopped loving me or something. God my head is such a mess about this. And it's really hard to have noone to talk to about it... Sorry, I realise I'm moaning alot and possibly tearing down the upbeat vibes of these happy tales lol. Who knows maybe one day I can add to those. Right now though... that just seems impossible.

We have all agonised over this question at some time in our lives. I did for years. I was amazed to feel a real weight being removed from my shoulders once I did it though.

Don't worry about moaning. You have to find your own way through this. I had to do a lot of talking, writing and thinking too before I took the plunge. I shall always be grateful to those patient people who put up with my crises in this decision. This is a safe environment in which you can try out your ideas.

Best wishes to you. It sounds like you should be okay when you finally decide to come out.