08-03-2007, 08:04 PM
That’s it, I came out to my parents last tuesday, July 31st.
Let me explain you everything. Just before dinner, mum softly asked me (again) how everything was going on with girls. That’s the kind of situation I was waiting for, in which she starts asking me about my personal life, you know. Just at that moment, phone rings: One of mum’s friends, a parrot, they were nearly 15 minutes chatting… While I was having dinner, and thinking, making up my mind… That was the moment.
-“Mum, is there anything of my personality you still feel doubtful about? Is there any piece that still doesn’t fit in the puzzle?â€Â
-“No…â€Â
-“What would you say if I told you I was homosexual?â€Â
And then came the wet conversation, late that night she told my dad, the following day I had a conversation with him. Both of them, separately, reacted similarly: They couldn’t dare to believe the strength of my feelings, they both said that, without having any ‘experience’ neither with boys nor with girls, I just couldn’t be so sure that I was gay and that was part of my identity. I tried to explain to them what I felt and what I’d been feeling since I was first sexually attracted to guys, and how, later, I knew myself that I could also be in love with a guy and I was perfectly ready to start a relationship, plus all the things I’ve already told to you (that of the social problems, the lack of confidence, you know). They told me that my way of thinking was wrong, or not particularly the best; way of thinking I mean by making all the conclusions by myself, “I Think and then I exist†Descartes said; they said the thing had to be the opposite. I told them that, being so insecure of my way of life; I could never have been able to have a strong relationship with anyone, and minus telling to them all the things that were happening to me, I was very scared and felt guilty. Felt very sad yesterday cos they made me feel confused again…
Two days passed and anything interesting happened after their ‘duel’ day: my mum seems interested about gaylife, he’s going with me to the psychologist next Monday, just to chat a bit and make her feel more confident with my feelings, although she told me she’s been thinking and she finally could see the best of this ‘bad thing’, she feels more in touch with my emotions. Also my dad. Chatting with me made him feel a bit relaxed, he told me he was quite happy that I had had courage to express what I felt… he told me that it would be very difficult, almost impossible, for him to watch me with other guy (hope he gets softer with time, I know he will), but he was very happy with me cos I was being truthful with myself.
I was surprised cause they didn’t ‘suspect’ anything, I couldn’t avoid shocking them… sorry spoty your advice of the hints was interesting but I couldn’t…
Thanks for everyting guys u were great help! Hope everything goes well from now on… I’m still beginning, the day’s beginning.
Let me explain you everything. Just before dinner, mum softly asked me (again) how everything was going on with girls. That’s the kind of situation I was waiting for, in which she starts asking me about my personal life, you know. Just at that moment, phone rings: One of mum’s friends, a parrot, they were nearly 15 minutes chatting… While I was having dinner, and thinking, making up my mind… That was the moment.
-“Mum, is there anything of my personality you still feel doubtful about? Is there any piece that still doesn’t fit in the puzzle?â€Â
-“No…â€Â
-“What would you say if I told you I was homosexual?â€Â
And then came the wet conversation, late that night she told my dad, the following day I had a conversation with him. Both of them, separately, reacted similarly: They couldn’t dare to believe the strength of my feelings, they both said that, without having any ‘experience’ neither with boys nor with girls, I just couldn’t be so sure that I was gay and that was part of my identity. I tried to explain to them what I felt and what I’d been feeling since I was first sexually attracted to guys, and how, later, I knew myself that I could also be in love with a guy and I was perfectly ready to start a relationship, plus all the things I’ve already told to you (that of the social problems, the lack of confidence, you know). They told me that my way of thinking was wrong, or not particularly the best; way of thinking I mean by making all the conclusions by myself, “I Think and then I exist†Descartes said; they said the thing had to be the opposite. I told them that, being so insecure of my way of life; I could never have been able to have a strong relationship with anyone, and minus telling to them all the things that were happening to me, I was very scared and felt guilty. Felt very sad yesterday cos they made me feel confused again…
Two days passed and anything interesting happened after their ‘duel’ day: my mum seems interested about gaylife, he’s going with me to the psychologist next Monday, just to chat a bit and make her feel more confident with my feelings, although she told me she’s been thinking and she finally could see the best of this ‘bad thing’, she feels more in touch with my emotions. Also my dad. Chatting with me made him feel a bit relaxed, he told me he was quite happy that I had had courage to express what I felt… he told me that it would be very difficult, almost impossible, for him to watch me with other guy (hope he gets softer with time, I know he will), but he was very happy with me cos I was being truthful with myself.
I was surprised cause they didn’t ‘suspect’ anything, I couldn’t avoid shocking them… sorry spoty your advice of the hints was interesting but I couldn’t…
Thanks for everyting guys u were great help! Hope everything goes well from now on… I’m still beginning, the day’s beginning.