Jay, for his part, is old enough to go to a bar, let alone a gay one, but I don't know if that's the place to start looking for a boyfriend. I'd advise going to a gay bar just to hang out with like minded people, and if you can find the courage to talk to strangers, then you are likely to start the ball rolling.
Otherwise, good places to look are generally in associations, or if there is one near you, a gay alliance or support group. I'm sure there must be some in Oxford. Try the yellow pages or online information.
The town is also crawling with students, foreign and otherwise... and surely a few gay young men such as yourself.
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well first thing you should kno is if u r the dominent type(top) or submissive type(bottom) that should help first when finding a guy
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well Moo, it might help,but our sexualities evolve with time and he who thinks he's only a top, might find that bottoming is fun too if done with the right person and in the right context. Maybe Jay doesn't want to define his sexuality type as top or bottom yet, and maybe he'd like to experiment first. What do you reckon?
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I don't know if there is an age for sex... maybe there is an age for sex with another person... and in any case there is a legal age for sex with someone of your own sex, and for sex with a partner, but who actually applies the law in such matters?
It might be wrong for an adult over 18 to have sex with someone underage, especially if coerced, but I think it's nature that takes care of these things.
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ummm thanks that makes me feel better i think... but dont most adults want teens to wait or say use protection at least
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Yes they recommend protection and also abstinence because obviously sometimes kids are careless and forget that sex can lead to a new life being spawned... so not only are condoms a way of keeping sexually transmitted diseases at bay, they are also designed to avoid unwanted pregnancies...
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Oh I'm not worried about sex or anything yet. I'm waitin until it means something, and I'll cross that bridge when I come to it lol. I thought it was personalities that make people compatible anyway, maybe I'm too traditional about this, but I stick to my guns with these things. I wouldn't have the first idea how to classify myself as top or bottom anyway!
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No need to classify yourself. I think Moo was going a bit fast on that one... that's why I said so. How are you today Jay?
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I won't get into how I am today lol, suffice to say not great, but on thepositive side, my mood is nothing to do with my being interested in guys; only that I'm moving out from home again tomorrow and I know it won't be long til I'm feeling lonely and wishin I had someone to stay up late with lol.
On an interesting note, I was watching TV today and there was this show I'd been waiting for solely because theres this really hot guy on it. My mum was watching with me and when the guy came on she said to me, "He's nice isn't he?" at which I went completely red and said "er...um...ah... Yeah... I mean... um I suppose... I mean do you think so?" . Looking back its quite funny now...
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