Is this normal?

[twisty88]

I'm still less than a year from adulthood(I know my age is wrong) so I've never even seen another guy naked(except for the internet). Anyway I've noticed that my sex drive is seriously just too much sometimes, if I'm playing a game and see something that turns me on I just have to get off right away and I can usually do it about 5-7 times in one night(If I keep getting turned on by stuff, but usually I go once or twice). And sometimes the things that I think of are a little weird, like I'd think of some 40 year old pedophile and after I "finish" I'd just be really creeped out by what I just thought of. I'm not sure if any of this is normal since I just found out that I was gay and I'm still new to this stuff. Oh and I actually think I was "turned" gay, because (I know this is gross, but please bare with me because it's what happened) my uncle would pin me down with his whole body when I was about 10 or 11 pretending to wrestle and then I actually got turned on by that and that's how I became/found out.

There's a lot of story so I'll put my questions here:
1. Is there some way to stop jacking off? I can't help it and I just want every guy I see. And I can't stop thinking of it.
2. Is it okay to think of stuff like that? It's just that I feel like a freak for thinking of weird stuff like that.
3. Is it okay that my uncle kind of turns me on... I mean he is the one who made me realize it.

I know some of the stuff I said could be weird/gross for you, but it's the truth and it's hard to deal with. It's just nice to get some answers from you guys, since most of you are "professionals" in this stuff.

[colinmackay]

1. Why would you want to, unless you are causing yourself damage. You are "a year away from adulthood" (How are you defining adult hood? When you can legally rent porn? When you can legally drink alcohol? When you can get married? (18, 18, and 16 in my country)

2. What is normal. You are fantasising over a 40yo. Okay, a particularly repugnant 40yo, but to each their own.

3. No idea on this. I fantasised about having an identical twin brother when I was a teenager (twincest it's called - well, if he was real and we did, but it was just a fantasy. And so long as you can tell the difference, I don't see the harm in it.). Incidentally, if your uncle also got turned on then that is obviously wrong/illegal.

But, you said you were "turned gay"... Rubbish (I say). I attempted to turn myself straight for many years. It doesn't work. I can't see how it could possibly work without a lot of emotional pain in the process. If you enjoy fantasising about men then go for it. Enjoy it.

[juk]

Ok, well we have to assume your age based on your 'hint'.

1/ There is a way to stop - and that is just stop. You are a teenage guy, hormones racing around - jacking off is a normal part of that, as is getting turned on by just about everything. It calms down later in life, so why not just enjoy it!

2/ To my mind, you could be using such a fantasy because its 'dangerous' or even because it removes some of the guilt - I mean if in your fantasy you are being coerced into doing stuff you can feel less guilty about thinking about guys. I could be wrong but its a possibility. Do you fantasise about other guys/situations?

3/ The uncle thing is probably the same.

Look, your uncle didnt make you gay - you were gay anyway, its just you realised when you were in close contact with him. You can obsess about these guys, or you can decide to explore your sexuality in wider terms. The positive choice would be to explore what else/what other guys there are out there that you feel attracted to and allow your sexuality to grow and develop rather than keeping things in such a closed circle of fantasies.

[nick]

1. Technically you can stop jacking off. Just stop. I don't recommend it though. Jacking off is just one of those cycles for people. It's not really necessary but can be integrated as part of a healthy sexual lifestyle.

2. I'm personally not a fan of fantasizing about things you would not actually want to do in real life. When I masturbate I try to think only about stuff I'd actually do in real life.

3. This is sort of gross and the story you refer to should not have happened. Still, if you are attracted to him then you are, but I don't think you should encourage yourself.

[Gareth125]

I'm still less than a year from adulthood(I know my age is wrong) so I've never even seen another guy naked(except for the internet). Anyway I've noticed that my sex drive is seriously just too much sometimes, if I'm playing a game and see something that turns me on I just have to get off right away and I can usually do it about 5-7 times in one night(If I keep getting turned on by stuff, but usually I go once or twice). And sometimes the things that I think of are a little weird, like I'd think of some 40 year old pedophile and after I "finish" I'd just be really creeped out by what I just thought of. I'm not sure if any of this is normal since I just found out that I was gay and I'm still new to this stuff. Oh and I actually think I was "turned" gay, because (I know this is gross, but please bare with me because it's what happened) my uncle would pin me down with his whole body when I was about 10 or 11 pretending to wrestle and then I actually got turned on by that and that's how I became/found out.

There's a lot of story so I'll put my questions here:
1. Is there some way to stop jacking off? I can't help it and I just want every guy I see. And I can't stop thinking of it.
2. Is it okay to think of stuff like that? It's just that I feel like a freak for thinking of weird stuff like that.
3. Is it okay that my uncle kind of turns me on... I mean he is the one who made me realize it.

I know some of the stuff I said could be weird/gross for you, but it's the truth and it's hard to deal with. It's just nice to get some answers from you guys, since most of you are "professionals" in this stuff.

I think you don't need to worry about that stuff , we all fantasise however bizarre it might be , the difference is in what you do , not what you think about . The human mind is a wonderful thing , it allows us to explore things that no way in real life would you wish to experience for real . For your information just to reassure you , my elder brother used to wrestle with me when i was a kid. There were times when i felt very turned on about this, but no way would i have considered anything sexual with him. I just felt arroused which I am sure is perfectly normal. I also used to fancy my much older cousin , but again this was probably just my gay feelings kicking in.

The desire to jack off as many times as you do is probably quite normal too , you probabaly just have a high sex drive .

Don't beat ur self up about it , you have nothing to be worried about

[marshlander]

Define "normal". We're all slightly different from anyone else. It doesn't sound like you are doing any harm with any of the activities you describe so unless it comes off in your hand it's probably safe to carry on.

I can't see how your uncle "turned" you gay. Being up close and there being a little inadvertent friction to get things a-stirring may have alerted you to the fact that you like men, but turning you? No I don't think so. That's a false argument employed by all those evangelists you get on the television over there. Don't listen to them. They only want your fear and your money.

[toeman]

It's normal to be really horny at the age of 20.I know I was...

[8inchwonder]

if you feel like you need to relieve yourself over something more appropriate than video games, I recommend downloading one of these films to watch every time you get the urge, then it will feel more normal?

eurocreme.com/breaking-em-in/movie

works for me at least!
dont be ashamed!

[TommyRay]

Completely normal. I'm going through the same thing. :heartline: