08-13-2010, 03:50 PM
Hello everyone! Im new on this forum and just wanted to ask for an opinion about the problem im having with my boyfriend.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years now. We met when we were in highschool together. I didnt know I was gay untill i met him. I used to be straight. Well, u could say im bi. Basically, he's my highschool sweetheart! We love each other so much. Well, atleast I do.
He is curently furthering his studies in the United States and was away for a year. It was really hard for me because Im worried that long distance relationship would be a bad idea. But we made it! He came back 3 months ago for summer break and we had the time of our life! And of coz he went back to the US last week.
Ok, here is something you need to know about him. He likes having "brotherly relationships" (according to him that is) with younger boys, most of them are cute and it pisses me off! The way they talk to each other are like... Hey ko, I missed u so much. That kind of stuff and Its not right!(ko means big brother in our language and its not normally called if your not blood-related. or atleast not guy to guy. Its like calling him sweety from where I see it.) He said it was nothing but I sence something more. He even lied to me(2 different times he did it with 2 different guys) just because he wanted to go out with them. He is doing too much just to spend time with them.
I used to have his facebook and msn password, so I usually log on to check stuff. That's how I found out about the way they talk to each other. I deleted them of my boyfriends facebook and msn friend list (I was pissed and I know now it was wrong). He found out and changed his pass saying that he needs space. He also said that doesnt like me checking on him, but what am I suppose to do if he is hiding stuff from me? He didnt even bother telling me about that brother relationship crap. Am I being jealous? or what I did was reasonable? You guys tell me please.
Ok, so here's another situation. Which adds on to the problem! He's really into christianity and after 4years being together he suddenly feels like it's wrong to God and his parents to have this relationship. He even said that being with him will bring no future. He feels that its his fault that im gay. But he said that he still loves me alot.
So guys, please tell me what to do. We been having arguments alot lately and I really want to fix this. I tried pretending like everything is ok on msn with him but it just isnt! On web cam he looks really down but when I ask he says nothing is wrong. He is not being open with me anymore. I can feel like theres alot of things that he's still hiding from me. I really want this to work but he isnt helping.
Sorry if theres any Grammar/English mistakes.
Thanks for taking your time in reading this btw.
Really appreciate it.
Regards
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years now. We met when we were in highschool together. I didnt know I was gay untill i met him. I used to be straight. Well, u could say im bi. Basically, he's my highschool sweetheart! We love each other so much. Well, atleast I do.
He is curently furthering his studies in the United States and was away for a year. It was really hard for me because Im worried that long distance relationship would be a bad idea. But we made it! He came back 3 months ago for summer break and we had the time of our life! And of coz he went back to the US last week.
Ok, here is something you need to know about him. He likes having "brotherly relationships" (according to him that is) with younger boys, most of them are cute and it pisses me off! The way they talk to each other are like... Hey ko, I missed u so much. That kind of stuff and Its not right!(ko means big brother in our language and its not normally called if your not blood-related. or atleast not guy to guy. Its like calling him sweety from where I see it.) He said it was nothing but I sence something more. He even lied to me(2 different times he did it with 2 different guys) just because he wanted to go out with them. He is doing too much just to spend time with them.
I used to have his facebook and msn password, so I usually log on to check stuff. That's how I found out about the way they talk to each other. I deleted them of my boyfriends facebook and msn friend list (I was pissed and I know now it was wrong). He found out and changed his pass saying that he needs space. He also said that doesnt like me checking on him, but what am I suppose to do if he is hiding stuff from me? He didnt even bother telling me about that brother relationship crap. Am I being jealous? or what I did was reasonable? You guys tell me please.
Ok, so here's another situation. Which adds on to the problem! He's really into christianity and after 4years being together he suddenly feels like it's wrong to God and his parents to have this relationship. He even said that being with him will bring no future. He feels that its his fault that im gay. But he said that he still loves me alot.
So guys, please tell me what to do. We been having arguments alot lately and I really want to fix this. I tried pretending like everything is ok on msn with him but it just isnt! On web cam he looks really down but when I ask he says nothing is wrong. He is not being open with me anymore. I can feel like theres alot of things that he's still hiding from me. I really want this to work but he isnt helping.
Sorry if theres any Grammar/English mistakes.
Thanks for taking your time in reading this btw.
Really appreciate it.
Regards