Getting over the Ex part 2.

[Adzz02]

Heya
I made a thread a while back about getting over my Ex.
Anyway, we were then on and off for last 3 months, and i called an end to it last Friday.
Ive been struggling so much over it, not eating as much, not sleeping. Its so hard!
I have tried to get in contact with him about my computer, i figured try to be mates and joke around, but he just answered me very to the point and made it clear he doesnt want me in his life.
I finally stopped crying myself to sleep now, so i guess thats a positive?
Anyone have any ideas how to stop thinking about him? x

[jet2A]

The few times I have felt like that about someone, time has really been the only thing that made it bearable. It couldn't hurt to distract yourself whether it is through school or volunteering or just getting a new hobby but the fact is that breaking up fucking sucks and moreso when it is not amicable. It seems like you will never get over it and you might not but it will hurt less in time.

A lot of people think it's a good idea to rush out to bars, go partying, hook up with guys and stuff, but I find that that just makes me think about it more.

[Adzz02]

Yeah, i have been trying to see my college mates as much as i can. I work full time so that keeps me going through the day even tho i hate my job lol.
I did unfortunatly make that mistake before, and i learnt that its not the best idea. Felt mega bad after. I just miss his company, voice and without it sounding wierd, his smell. Was with him like 24/7 it seems, and to go from that to nothing its just like o

[Adzz02]

Update:

My Ex has been talking to me since Sunday after not speaking for about 4/5 days. However, it hasnt all been nice. He is wanting us to get back together, give it another shot. But i dont know if i can after everything thats happened. Id love it to work, as anyone would, but thinking about why we ended it I cant see it being repaired.
I was out on Sunday and came home to find that he had thrown the watch i gave him on my garden, later followed by the iPod. This is truly destroying as its something i gave him as a present.
He was also threatening about commiting suicide. He has had sessions to help with this in the past, and has tried a few times before. This time he was in his car, and after he had calmed down, he told me where to look for the skid marks. They were down my road, and half way out onto the on-coming road. I really fear that the next time will be his last attempt.
I constantly think do i or dont i go back, and its started getting me really down.

Can anyone offer me any advice on this?

[marshlander]

You've made your decision, so be strong. He makes the decisions about what he does in his life.

[colinmackay]

He was also threatening about commiting suicide. He has had sessions to help with this in the past, and has tried a few times before. This time he was in his car, and after he had calmed down, he told me where to look for the skid marks. They were down my road, and half way out onto the on-coming road. I really fear that the next time will be his last attempt.
I constantly think do i or dont i go back, and its started getting me really down.

Can anyone offer me any advice on this?

First, I think you know where you want to go... I don't think it is with him. He is now emotionally blackmailing you into returning to him.

Second, if the skid marks are onto the next street then he isn't just endangering himself, he is endangering others. It is imperative, in my mind at least, that this must be stopped. He is lashing out at everyone no matter who they are. If that means going to the relevant authorities (i.e. police) to ensure he cannot continue that course of action then I feel that's probably what must be done.

[Adzz02]

We met last night after work and discussed everything. I loved being around him, brought back all the memories and emotions. We did kiss, and i never wanted it to end. I know these are probably normal emotions, does it mean i want him back? I think i do... I just cant help but think negatively about the outcome later on, in terms of the problems coming back, and it being 10 x worse!
My life is a complete mess at the moment! Eurghhh Love sucks

[mooninleo]

Hey there. Sorry to hear you're going through a break up. I've been reeling for two years over my love. It was an abusive relationship, but also the first time i fell in love.

If you find yourself overcome with emotions, try to look at your feelings objectively. You may wanna look into meditation as well. Learn to find your own breathe. For fifteen minutes, sit alone and breathe in and out, and focus on your breathe. Focus on breathing in and how it feels in your body. Imagine you're breathing in life and positive feelings. your mind will experience other anxieties and worries, but the goal is to just focus on breathing for 15 minutes. it will help you view your problems objectively and with a calm head. Cheers mate. Austin