Shameful Thoughts

[Anonymous]

Deep down inside, hopefully, a pedophile would know that what they are doing is wrong. The next question is, do they care enough to control themselves?

Let me first start out by saying Im in no way shape or form defending the sexual exploitation of children. People who sexually exploit children by way of child porn, rape and molestation deserve to be executed on the spot. I have seen what such acts do to the victims and it causes them lasting psychological damage beyond comprehension.

With that said however I must confess as a adult male struggle with pedophilia-ish thoughts and tendencies on ocassion . I am attracted to adults as well and not exclusively drawn to children. I am extremely ashamed of such thoughts. I dont know where these thoughts come from. I believe they have to do with having power and control over something weaker then myself. Also my own sexual repression ties into the scheme of things along with other mental disorders I suffer from. A pedophile doesnt have a choice in there attraction HOWEVER they do have a choice if they choose to entertain such thoughts and act on there desires.
As respectable adult human being I practice self control. I have NEVER laid a hand on a child and have no intention on doing so in the future. Also when such thoughts creep up in my head I choose to not entertain them and I choose to think of something else instead. I love children more than words can acknowledge however that is why I will NOT act on my desires or entertain such thoughts. If I ever did cross that line and acted on my thoughts I would more than likely kill myself because the guilt and shame I would feel would overwhelm me.

If you think being gay has an big stigma attached to it then try confiding in someone you are attracted to kids. The general public only hears about pedophiles when they have offended and the media reports such crimes to the public. Please keep in mind though people are capable of self control and not all pedophiles are out to hurt children. Let the stone throwing and bashing commence.:frown:

[Aaycle]

HOWEVER they do have a choice if they choose to entertain such thoughts and act on there desires

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No stone throwing and bashing here! I am a person that has always been labelled crazy, because I endeavoured to understand people: the way they think, dress, speak, what they love or hate, etc, etc. It truly is a BIG man to come out and say they are attracted to children and need help. Quite commendable of you.

Do you honestly believe, that YOU, have a choice to entertaining these thoughts and whether or not you act on your desire to have sex with a child?

I wish you all the best with this struggle, and hope you get the help you clearly desire.

[Ultra]

Wow, that took guts posting that on here. However it's no surprise that you posted this. That NAMBLA thread has become a really big discussion on this board. Like Aaycle said, I wish you the best with this and I also hope you get help on this as well.

[eastofeden]

You are a very brave man and I applaud you for your honesty. You have my respect....I hope you respect yourself because you are worthy of it from what I read above and I sincerely wish you peace.

I also want to add I think psychology and therapy have a long way to go to catch up to where we are now...and hopefully they will evolve as everything else does. I do agree with you about the power and control aspect and I think these can be addressed and dealt with...maybe dealing with that will begin the process of freeing you from these thoughts?

[Genersis]

Now you're not going to get any stones from me.
But you are going to get a big BIG hug:


It obviously wasn't easy sharing this with us. And i hope this has helpped you feel a little better about yourself.
We understand that almost everyone(I would think) with these thoughts dislike having such thoughts. And i wish you very best with dealing with them.

I would sugest getting help if such feelings got out of hand.....but i'm not sure thats such a good idea....guess its depended on who you go to for help.

Anyone on here know what would happen to someone if they were to talk about having these thoughts to a counsoler/psychotherapist ECT?
Would probably deppend on the individual who is confided in, right?

[Anonymous]

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Do you honestly believe, that YOU, have a choice to entertaining these thoughts and whether or not you act on your desire to have sex with a child?

To be fair I dont actually meet the clinical diagnostic criteria for suffering from pedophilia which would be: Over a period of at least six months, recurrent intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children (generally age 13 or younger).

To answer your question if I honestly believe I have a choice to entertain these thoughts or not I would have to say I do have a choice. When a thought pops up my I can either idealize it in my head and entertain the thought by focusing on it or I can choose to think about something else entirely to distract myself so the shameful thought is soon forgotten.

Ill give you a good example. You are in the store grocery shopping and spot a hot guy with a perfect butt in tight jeans. The thought pops in your head "OMG look at that a$$, what I wouldnt give to bend him over right now". You have two options you can pick from. Option A: Keep the thought process going by continuing to check him out by following him around the store so you continue entertaining thoughts about sex like having steamy hot sex with him and deep throating him. OR Option B: Interrupt the thought process by looking at your grocery list and continue shopping for the milk, eggs, bread, apples, dish soap , paper towels,etc. you came to the buy while forgetting about the sexy man you saw previously.

My point being the more you idealize and focus on the fantasys the more desensitized you become to them. Sooner or later they will become ingrained into your psyche and you are much more likely to act them out because you view them normal in your mind now.

Thank you for not stoning me to death guys mile:

[Anonymous]

We understand that almost everyone(I would think) with these thoughts dislike having such thoughts.

I wish that was true but there are some sincerely some sick low life scum of the earth people out there that very much enjoy having these thoughts immensely like the members of NAMBLA.

[Genersis]

I wish that was true but there are some sincerely some sick low life scum of the earth people out there that very much enjoy having these thoughts immensely like the members of NAMBLA.

Oh good point.:redface:
Agreed 100%.(On how sick they are.)

[fredv3b]

Anon,

Thank you for being brave enough to share that.

As respectable adult human being I practice self control. I have NEVER laid a hand on a child and have no intention on doing so in the future. Also when such thoughts creep up in my head I choose to not entertain them and I choose to think of something else instead.

You deserve credit, not least from yourself, for your clear resolve in this matter.

[Anonymous]

Also, why did you make a new thread for this instead of just posting it in the original thread?

I wasnt sure how well my secret would be received and you cant post anonymously in the debate section where the NAMBLA thread resides. I was expecting a firestorm of insults and condemnation. :eek: