@gilhooly: âSounds great. Is there any way the relationship could affect your job? Any financial considerations?â
Not really .. I donât think he would ask me to live in Italy .. although I wish I could
@HemDawg: âCant really expect him to give you an answer that you can read something into if you wont do the same for himâ
Exactly! And thatâs why Iâm confused.. I donât feel comfortable saying âHey, I go both waysâ Iâd be embarrassed and the reception area is not quite the right place to talk about it when you have some of your colleagues on the same shift and youâre surrounded by clients here and there ...
âI'm inclined to agree with princealbert about getting a drink sometime, but it probably isn't something that you should ask... if you're at work and you ask someone out for a drink, thats a bit inappropriate. I think you just need to create a gap in conversation where it would be appropriate for him to ask you out for a drink. Not the easiest, but worth a go.â
Yeah .. I wish I can .. Iâll see how things will go ...
@Paul1: âI agree with Wintereis, the language barrier is there. That's a GOOD thingâ
Can you explain more about this please..
âMaybe swap the word, "girlfriend" for "partnerâ
Itâs a great phrasing that I never thought of, for sure I will mention this ...
âYou can ask questions that have a double meaning that involve dubious words. Prepare before hand because it's difficult to be creative in the moment. Be a little inappropriate (but not too much), you want to break down the barriers a little to see if he'll respond. I admit I'm not that good at it myself, perhaps people here have some suggestions. I usually try three times, if there's no response I consider it a No, otherwise it's all good.â
Thatâs what I badly want to know ... how to ask these questions that would allow me to discover him more?
âSo I think Italian gays are cautiousâ
Thatâs what I assume. He seems so into me you know from the eyes and all of that but again I could be wrong. I guess the Italian culture is considered macho so itâs hard for someone to come out.
âI agree with princealbertofb, the best way, IMO, is to get into a deep conversation about something unimportant - any subject you both like to talk aboutâ
LOL:biggrin: .. thatâs what we did the last time I saw him .. we talked about everything thatâs not important LOL
.. repeating some subjects that we already talked about but it looked like we were talking something new.
I agree with you Paul1 .. your advices are valuable.
@princealbertofb: âYou didn't tell us how old this man is. Is he likely to have a wife and children already?â
Ok! First, heâs very handsome .. tall with a short haircut and amazing eyes.
Heâs 25 years old and already a pilot .. so yeah I guess he can easily have a girlfriend ..
I remembered something ... on our third catch up, while we were talking a very sexy lady passed by walking outside, she waved at him and said âHey, see you!â. He waved at her but not passionately. This is what happened:
I said, âWow, who was that?â I was excited, because sheâs sexy. :biggrin:
He said âShe was in the bar, sheâs half polish half Swedish (something like that)â He was waving his hands while he was saying that in a way like saying whatever
but not exactly. I hope you got what I mean. He didnât even sound interested in talking about her because we were at that time very comfortable talking with each other. Even the first time when we were talking about this famous model the first time we met, he gave this fake excited âyeahâ with that wide grin, you know when someone is faking something with or without being gay.. I can feel it.
âI got the impression Italianandme was not American originally, so I don't know if he can pull off the American weirdness that Paul1 was mentioningâ
Yes, Iâm not American, but willing to be now if thatâs what it takes to be sexy .
.. Iâm also trying to fix my date of birth here .. itâs showing Iâm 31 ... guess I was in a hurry to post here but for the record Iâm 24, got to up-date my profile now ..
What's the american weirdness? :confused: