I'm 17 (turning 18) year shy male, as a shy guy, I really want a boyfriend that protects me and make me feel wanted, throughout my life like a normal teen, I have crush over guys, but it never happens because they're straight and some who knows I'm gay decide to bully or use me to gain something and then just neglect me afterward... I've been feeling really depress lately due to this, whenever I see a couple walking in the street I get really upset, because I wonder will I ever get this feeling. I'm really afraid to be alone, but I can't help but feel that I'll never experience it and all hope is lost for me. Anyway, yeah just want to get this off my chest.
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Had a similar problem, because most of my friends are straight, some even a bit homophobic, finding a partner seemed impossible. Also envied all the couples around me. Was wondering if something was wrong with me, because it seemed to work for everyone else. Well, it finally worked for me and i found someone i love very much at the "old" age of 21.
You could try to find some gay friends online, even if not for a relationship. They might introduce you to some of their gay friends who might introduce you to.... and so on.
Might also find a partner straight away. Look for someone who doesn't talk about sex at first, because it might be the only thing you will ever get from him. Not like its a thing to shy away from(well, when you finally are 18).
The key here is to do something about it. Such things don't happen auto-magically very often, especially if you are shy(like me).
Wouldn't recommend going to gay bars or events, if you are looking for a caring partner. They are mostly good for only getting laid.
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I'm sorry but I I don't have any cheering words of my own right now. So my advice is to go to YouTube and watch some of the 'It Gets Better' videos.
Fred
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
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hey aethe i feel bad for you but dont worry your not the only one thats lonely im lonely too but dont worry things will get better for for you and i really do mean it.
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thanks people, I'm not sure if I'm able to get over my depression, but I'll try to be more optimistic. Although I really want to know how those that have similar problem as me able to find a lover.
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