I dont feel like i can be open about my sexuality with most my friends/family

[Anonymous]

Long story short. I am 22, still living at home/finishing college/figuring out career/work,etc.....


A little background - most my family is religious-parents, all my cousins, etc.... No one related to me from first/second cousins are gay or at least honest about it. Simply put though i am not even questioning to ever come out to my parents at the moment. I just think they wouldn't know what to think of it and my moms pretty crazy lol so that woldn't go good ether.


I have a few cousins tho i may be open to tell when i am ready and living out of my house, also i know my older brother knows homosexuality is normal and doesn't really care- so if i ever came out to cousins id prob. tell him too and maybe one of my younger brothers, but it still feels weird. Its a very private thing to me right now. I just don't know how to tell the people i know that boys make me horny, lol. Even though i know its normal.


Put simply though , i have no interested to be singled out or get thrown into peoples stupid ass religious or personal politics, so honestly i dont care so much but i guess at some point ill probably have to tell someone related to me or something once im totally financially independent though, definetely not yet.

Also i guess in coming out to myself,i started getting off to boys in porn probably about a year or at least a couple months back and overtime i realized that i am not interested in women, in porn or in real life for the most part.

Otherwise i have a boyfriend i met online/weve been talking, have similar situation, we have feelingd for each other but were taking as it goes so i dont really want to talk about that now but at least i have one friend i can share and talk about with.


Well thats it for now i guess. I don't know if theres really a point of this thread, but i guess it would be interesting to hear if anyone else has been through a situation similar to mine and maybe even how it's evolved since then if you'd like to share.


Thanks for reading.

[fredv3b]

My advice in short would be to move out of the family home and get some new gay and gay-friendly friends. (Practically, I dare say it would tie-in with finishing college and getting a 'proper job'.) Get yourself into a situation where you can be comfortable and open about your sexuality, be able to spend time with your boyfriend, etc. Then think about whether you want to come out to some of your family.

[The Virgin]

i can totally relate to you. don't rush things. and besides, you really don't need to come out to your loved ones (especially if it's not really bothering you that much). what's important is that you maintain a healthy amount of being you but don't disregard the love your giving to your family.

you seem like a very smart guy so i know you'd be able to get through with it.

[davy]

Hi, you seem to have it thought out well. Like the other guys said take your time. In a fairly similar situation. Out to friends etc. but not family and cant say it bothers me too much at the moment.

[The Virgin]

and by the way, you need to find yourself a boyfriend..hehe... though i've never experienced having one, it may help you dealing up with sress and depression in your life.

[Spray]

I'm in the cloest too... but my classmates know that I'm gay because of my behaviour.....mile: fortunately, I'm sure that my parents don't know that I'm gay :tongue:

[The Virgin]

for me, it's not really a big deal whether or not everyone knows your gay. what really matters is that within yourself, you know who you are and you don't need to convince everyone about that.

[stephanie stephens]

If there is no dying need to tell your parents then why worry about it? In time you may just blurt it out so fast you can't pull the words back.
Stephanie

[The Virgin]

but again, it boils down to priorities.