what really bothers me and hard to stop

[oldster]

For some reason it bothers me when i am calling and an operater says "mam"
i mean i dont think i sound feminen but then i do try not to have a gharsh male voicce
so i guess it is my fault but when they ask my nname and i say dave i expect that to be enough to clue them in that i am not female but just keeps going on my voice pattern i try not to be dead pan dry but a more feeling voice that shows a bit of compashon of course i have lots of other peevies too its just that to be ccalled mame just instantly grinds on my
it mab because that was my dads favorite thing to do if he saw a bunch of boy kids playing or
something he would almost always sad like how goes it today girls. and things like that for the girls too

[OrphanPip]

I get it when I speak French on the phone, I think it might be a result of always having female French teachers. I don't usually get it when I answer the phone in English. I more often get confused for my brother over the phone than as a woman.

[NorCalE34]

... Never had that problem, But I have answered the phone at work a few times to hear what I thought was a girl to find their name to be George or something....

[colinmackay]

My fiancé gets called Mrs Mackay when answering our house phone. he tends to reply, "no, she lives in Edinburgh"

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[pellaz]

now a days i always acknowledge a person and not be gender specific.

i sold an item on craigslist.com the other day to "Aasome Khokhar"
for the life of me (accept my ignorance if its obvioius) didnt know if a guy or lady would show up.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I do not have that problem. But then I have a deep voice, one that my partner says 'rumbles' in my chest.

"Trying not have a harsh voice".

Why? Is there really a point to add one more layer to the mask to hide who you are? Are you uncomfortable with yourself to the point where you have to hide it from others?

My Partner affects (as in affectation) the 'gay lisp' when we are around other gays, I actually dislike it and am turned off by it.

I do not like plastic people, I do not like clones. To me 'affecting' characteristics in order to 'fit it' is all around bad for all concerned.

You are male, be male. If people don't like that THAT is their problem. If a person is too shallow to accept you and ALL of you, they are not worth being around.

[MysteryGuest]

Hell, I've been called ma'am by customers at work back when I had long hair. I guess I could forgive people who do it to me from behind, but then I'd turn around (revealing a short beard and mustache), and there is maybe one person I can remember who apologized to me for their mistake.

Similar thing, and yeah, it annoyed me too.

[ToddYoung]

I've never been mistaken for a woman, but often get mistaken for a child on the phone.

[sacredcake]

It always happens to me. Whenever I answer the phone people think I'm my mom's sister and when I'm at my grandma's and I answer the phone they think I'm my mom. Strangers always talk to me as a lady on the phone.

I'm OK with that though. My voice is high pitched and I don't really care. It's the way I am, won't change it!