What do you do if you note that your lovely friend is a DL?

[clicksurmoi83]

I live whith a guy, near 60 years old, since 10 years, and i never speak with him about my fetish: diapers. I sometimes like to wear some diapers and i must do that behind him, secretly... Did you know a gay friend who live like me with this fetish but can't speak this with his own friend or a love man?

[SlipknotRlZZ]

Why can't you talk to him about it? He won't understand? :/

[clicksurmoi83]

Why can't you talk to him about it? He won't understand? :/

Not exactly... He had just seen me once time when we founded on love 10 years ago, but He asked to me to do a choice: him or them. So i choiced him but i continius to wear my diapers discretly... It's difficult to me to stop to wear them, you know, only for their confort, it's fun to me...

[Gay88]

I agree with him you should defo talk to him for sure.

[clicksurmoi83]

I agree with him you should defo talk to him for sure.

It's not easy...

[SlipknotRlZZ]

I wrote a reply but my connection is fucked..
Alright, here it goes again.

I completely undertsand why you would want to keep wearing them, that's okay. :]
So the problem is that you would like to be able to be open with him about your fetish?
Well, maybe his attitude will be changed after 10 years, I mean,,,it's lot of time. Can't you try and talk to him? Just...calmly and patiently approach the prblem and explain that you like this and maybe he shouldn't be restricting you. Try as hard as possible not to start a scandal though.

[zeon]

i must admit i gave tghem up when i was like old enough to go for underwear loil

[fenris]

Here we have some good fetish forums where people can exchange their experiences or whatever. I think some fetishes have a very bad reputation although there is no reason for. A guy wearing leather is mostly accepted ... but a guy wearing diapers not.... the problem is, that some fetishes are very unknown or not manly enough. Maybe you should talk with your bf about it and explain why you like it..... and maybe he react not negative.

My opinion is that my partners fetish is OK for me as long I would be not disturbed in my own likes likes and dislikes .... means : if a partner maybe has a fetisch which is not my fetisch I can accept it partially: If you wear diapers its ok for me and you can wear them as long as you dont want the same fetish from my side..

Maybe you should only start talking about... if you see sex as a game.. its easy to change the gaming rules as long as nobody gets hurt against his own will in mind and / or body...

[Lolguy]

I would try talking with him about it. Like slipknot said, maybe his attitude has changed over the last 10 years.

[East]

Do you have any insight into the personal dynamics and/or background that contribute to your fantasy...sorta like cause and effect?. The reason I ask is that sometimes a bit of understanding goes a long way. People are often afraid of things they don't understand and maybe if you understand a bit about your fantasy and the dynamics it might help?

I used to be at a total loss trying to explain the dynamics of dominance and submission to people...I knew what I wanted to convey but my enemy was the misunderstanding and images people already had on the subject (for instance...I don't like the smell or look of leather or playing dress up or any verbal or any S&M or bondage :biggrin......so eventually whenever anyone asked I just directed them to the movie "Exit to Eden" and let it go at that:biggrin: