Considering to Dump my Boyfriend

[Circ]

I am really considering dumping my boyfriend before it gets even more serious. Well the problem is... he's going bankrupt, he might lose his home soon, he lost his business deal (a main reason why I stayed with him), the relationship requires a lot of effort from my part as well. The relationship isn't equal either, I have to be more submissive to his needs... I was kind of gold-digging for him at first, since I stayed with him so long (about 4 months).

I really do like the guy, but he seems to have lost his life in the past 3 months from the guy he once was. We never met, it's been mostly online. So it's not that serious yet, but the plan was that I was to move to him.

I feel like... honestly, confuse, if I stay with him I might lose out on better partners, but I still love him in a way. I don't know.

What would you do?

[posterpicture]

It seems like you don't love him at all.
"Like" is not enough to commit in a relationship.

Just pull the trigger before it turns into a head shot.
lol

[Alan0706]

Yeah, I agree with posterpicture, but try and do it gently (he's going through enough as it is).

[SrChulo]

Meh... an online relationship based on money? ... and uh... how are you submissive if you've never met the guy?

[matty7]

are you serious ??? - do the guy a favour n go now, n im saying it for his benefit not yours - admiting to gold digging then wanting to leave as there may be no money !!!!! wow - ur a real treasure n wonderful capture for him - in all my time here i dont think ive wrote anything bad about someone but you have just shown the worst qualities in my eyes - dont care if you post the most hatefull crap in responce - u think 4 months of your time deserves money !!! i feel truly sorry for you

[DarkDaisuke]

I'm sorry but you do not love him. I hate saying how people feel but you don't. You admitted yourself you're only in it for the money :/ Just leave... Seriously.

[zeon]

hello,
What i would do is be honest with myself... I would be honest and think have i used him to throw him down back in the dirt??? If so maybe you should consider not leaving him... I take it he doesnt live local then and have you guys met in reality??? However on the other side of the coin what if he rebuilds a new business thats thriving??? If you dump him you wont be able to go back so its your call stick with him and run the risk of everything lost OR ditch him and leave him in the dark

kindest regards

zeon

[Circ]

are you serious ??? - do the guy a favour n go now, n im saying it for his benefit not yours - admiting to gold digging then wanting to leave as there may be no money !!!!! wow - ur a real treasure n wonderful capture for him - in all my time here i dont think ive wrote anything bad about someone but you have just shown the worst qualities in my eyes - dont care if you post the most hatefull crap in responce - u think 4 months of your time deserves money !!! i feel truly sorry for you

I am one, and I am a horrible human being. But I admit that I am one, and I don't care that I am one.

Thanks everyone for your responses.

[SrChulo]

You are "one" what? Saying you admit that you are horrible doesn't garner you sympathy points. But I don't think you're looking for sympathy.

Plenty of people are gold diggers. Doesn't mean your a horrible person, but it might mean you can work on some stuff. Why don't you "take a look at yourself a make a chaaaaayeeeyaaange?"


MAKE that change!

[Bookworm]

I agree with the others, from what you say you clearly are just in this 'virtual' relationship for the money; if you did actually care for him you'd be doing your best to actually be supportive of the poor guy; he's facing bankruptcy and homelessness!! Does that even register with you??
Its a pretty selfish and heartless attitude you have.