Please Help

[collinrunner]

Hello all, I am new here (hi from florida!) and I'm going through some issues in my relationship... We've been dating a year now and we're in love and all that fun stuff, but having some issues with sex life.

I am self conscious about my size because he is bigger and I'm trying to accept being smaller, but sometimes he makes his point of being bigger and being happy that he's bigger than I am. I don't know what to do and how to accept things the way they are. I just need some advice on how to be mentally when we do stuff and I look down and just easily see the difference. Thank you all in advance.

[fredv3b]

Hi & Welcome to GS

but sometimes he makes his point of being bigger and being happy that he's bigger than I am.

Have you told him how it makes you feel? Have you asked him not make that point?

I don't know what to do and how to accept things the way they are.

A bit of my philosophy is in order me thinks. Unless a couple, by chance, happened to be exactly the same size, one will be bigger than the other so there are lots of guys in the same situation. Don't compare yourself to porn stars, they're not selected for their acting ability. Be happy you've got a well endowed boyfriend. If you can satisfy him in bed then you're big enough. If you're sex-life is a bit lacklustre don't feel sorry for yourselves, get some books, do some reading on 'technique', experiment a bit together.

[Beaux]

Hi Collinrunner,

Let me tell you how I lost one of the best relationships in my life. I was 31 yrs old and I fell madly, deeply over this guy (lets call him Ray). Well Ray and I really had it going on as far as chemistry is concerned. We met at a party and clicked right off. The next 4 months were awesome and before you know it Ray and I got an appartment to share. After we got everything unpacked we threw a hugh house warming party to show off the place and invited only 40 or 50 of our closest friends. Needless to say, it was an open bar and we were all lit up like Jamaica. Ray was sitting on my lap wearing my straw cowboy hat, barefoot and shirtless in jeans. I was playing dominos, and two of my friends (as my friends are wont to do) began to argue over preferd penis size, and without missing a beat (with out even realizing what I was saying) I pronounced: "Well, Ray has the smallest penis of any guy I have ever been with, and I think sex with him is the best I have ever had". As God as my witness, I have NO idea why I said that but I realized as my ears heard what my mouth had said how bad it sounded. I looked up at Ray and immediately saw that the relationship was over, just from the look on his face.

The moral of this story? Some guys (like me, then) just dont realize what a sensitive subject penis size can be for some men. They dont realize what they're saying. ALSO, unless your boyfriend is as bad as me, its possible what your hearing isnt really what he is meaning to say. If your boyfriend IS as bad as me, well, even fools fall in love. Surely we deserve some slack once in a while, sometimes we need it spelled out for us.

Beaux

[marshlander]

There's not a lot you can do to change what you've been allocated as I think you've acknowledged. Stroke his ego by acknowledging his attributes and send him to heaven with your technique. If either of you would like him to enjoy a little extra from time to time there are any number of toys to play with. I think for many and maybe even most, it's the love in the relationship that's more important than theequipment with which you express it.

[collinrunner]

First off, thank you all for contributing your thoughts to my situation, I appreciate it so much, and I wish I had friends like you in my life to talk to about this stuff. So thank you!

So I really want to say that what Beaux said makes a lot of sense to me with his random comments, beacuse he has said before that it doesn't matter to him. Then I say... Well, why did you say that then?? And it goes from there. SO maybe it's not that he cares, but that he doesn't care and doesn't mean it the way I perceive... Makes sense, so thank you. And I'm really sorry to hear about you and "Ray," but I hope love has found you again

Fred, your philosophy is obviously spot on and yes, we satisfy each other perfectly except for that mental block that I have, so I guess I should just try and move past it...

Marshlander, moral of the story, love > all else, and you're absolutely correct

Thank you all again, I really really appreciate it

[yrao]

haha, it is interesting.
Does it really matter, think it twice before you answer my question.
Stop bothering yourself with it, after all, you can do nothing to change it.

[BENDERBOY]

Your boyfriend sounds like a big dick, move on sweetpea.