Sounds like your partner is a total-bottom. I have had experience with these types. Sometimes a total bottom turns out to in fact be a Transgender Person who sees himself as the "female" partner. He feels like a women in your presence and hates the thought of you being attracted to his maleness. Touching his male equipment only reminds him that he is male and that you are a gay man. He does not want gay sex. He wants a straght relationship with a straight man. Do not attempt to perform fellatio on him. It only offends him/her.
I have been there too many times. If he is Transgendered, not Gay; he/she preferes to be your "woman' and not your gay male partner.
. . . . . . . . . . . . . Sorry if that is the case.
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I am sure there are "Total Bottoms" who are Gay and not Transgendered Straight.
The only way to determine this is to ask the person in question.
I have been there enough times. If your partner gets a troubled look on his face when you even look at his genitals, it is a very big clue that he/she is Transgendered and not gay. Transgendered people hate their bodies and want permanent changes & a new identity and hate having the male parts being touched, or even being looked at. I have been there, it is not my cup of tea.
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I used to be a total bottom and I wasn't transgendered. If I'm the bottom I don't want my partner to give me a handjob or a blowjob.
My advice is to do other things. Massage is good. Kiss his neck. Touch his nipples. Finger him. Give him a rimjob. Be intimate with him as a bottom, rather than as a versatile guy.
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I am a bottom and I tend to pleasure more than I am pleasured. For me I think it is just a personality thing. Unless I am really close to someone I don’t like them to touch me like that, even when I was really close to someone I did not want him to touch me like that on the regular. Yea I would have to say for me its personality related.
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