Rape, Molestation fantasies

[sweetlad2010]

All I'm saying is

[princealbertofb]

Tempest in a tea cup?

[musicman2229]

Wow, apparently becoming a parent impairs your ability to read and comprehend logical arguments. Looks like the troll has eaten his fill and deleted his account as he runs off to slumber. Right, back to my sad and meaningless life of self-absorbed indulgence.

[silverlight2xx6]

Be careful for what u dream of , man >"< It might be so interesting in your mind but the actual things will be significant different from dreams . Dont ever have yourself trapped in such a terrible situation like that. It's not interesting at all, man. Take care mile:

[Dreamer1]

I stopped with the fantasies suddenly it just felt sick to me the thought of just being forced to do anything just seemed wrong. I am sorry for wasting your time or bringing back memories. Please forgive me :frown:

[Zophia]

I stopped with the fantasies suddenly it just felt sick to me the thought of just being forced to do anything just seemed wrong. I am sorry for wasting your time or bringing back memories. Please forgive me :frown:

You don't owe that guy an apology. Not in the least.

Fantasies about rape are normal and there is nothing wrong (or immature, imo) about them. He read more into it than he should have and made it personal; that is on him, not you. You didn't do anything wrong.

mile:

He should be the one coming back to apologize. Not only did he overreact and personalize something that had nothing to do with his situation, but he said some pretty nasty things. Not acceptable behavior for an adult. Being a father doesn't give anyone the right to act like that.

[Almac]

I'm done aeguing. you are not a dad. you never willl be a dad. being a parent changes you. your kid becomes your whole life. this conversation is over. you can reply and say whatever you want I'm not replying. the thing is with the gay community you are all so self-focused and self-absorbed. your whole world revolves around you. which is why you have really messed sick twisted fantasies about being molested. everything is about you gusy getting off. when I am 75 I''m gonna have plenty of loving grandchildrenn come visit me. I won't ever be alone. what are you gonna have at 75? memories of sleeping with every guy you met? a really sad empty existence awaits you at that age.

No we are not all self-focused and self-absorbed no more than anyone else. And not all of us have sick and twisted fantasies. It's very sad when a debate descends into a homophobic rant, still we are all allowed our views in a democratic society.

[Pix]

Fantasies of rape, domination & submission, and being helpless & taken advantage of are very popular for both men and women of any sexuality. There are too many sex operators, too much porn, too much erotica, and too many sex clubs featuring themes of domination and submission (for every sexuality) to think it's rare. And there are more still, like I know a woman who is mostly asexual but sometimes wakes up after a dream of being molested & abused and is incredibly horny (which fills her with shame and self-disgust but she can't help it) and she never avails herself of all the sources and clubs that cater to such fantasies. And when I've seen people anonymously share their secret sex fantasies I'm surprised by how many want to be dominated and abused. Truth be told, I feel weird that I don't have such fantasies! (And even so I've indulged others with such fantasies, playing the abuser or the victim as preferred.)

Of course such people are in full control of what happens in their imagination and not truly being harmed so it doesn't mean they deserve to raped or abused (where there is no real control and where actual harm & trauma can actually happen). If anything, I'd think someone who fantasized about being raped would be even more traumatized by it actually happening because of guilt and/or belief that maybe they wanted it to happen and brought it on themselves. And I knew a woman who enjoyed rape play (where she was the victim) but she hated actual rapists.

I have my speculations on why such fantasies are common (mainly based on Jungian psychology) but it's pure guesswork, and I also believe that the level of shame over one's sexual nature (which I've never experienced though enough tried to make me feel shame--I did grow up in Texas after all :tongue and feelings of being overwhelmed by one's sexual nature probably contribute to it, too. But I don't want to bore you with my thoughts, especially as I'm probably wrong anyway. :redface:

But please don't feel ashamed for having such fantasies. Shame isn't helpful in this case. I don't have such fantasies but I don't think people who do are bad, and I've indulged such fantasies willingly enough without any judgment at all.

[East]

Zophia and Pix...THANK YOU! I was wondering if sensibilities had really changed THAT much and I was just too old or out of it...I am glad to hear your opinions.

[calcmandan]

As the title says I have rape and molestation fantasies but I'm the victim. When I'm alone I often think of situation that I am being molested in a elevator, train, bus, school, office or I end up being kidnapped, raped, and tossed away sometimes even sold to the highest bidder. I find it weird to have these kind of thoughts but I still find them arousing. What do you think is it weird? odd? either way thank you for reading

Sounds to me like your fantasy has more to do with rough anonymous sex with a dash of public humiliation. The fact it is a fantasy tells me that it would be consensual, thus not rape. Does your fantasy happen during your adult years or before? Do you fantasize being a porn star perhaps?


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