Is watching gay porn and jerking to it gay or not?

[drewnyc7]

Hello, I am 31 years old. Always have been straight. I am addicted to gay porn for a couple of years now. It started with my girlfriend rimming me years ago, then out of curiosity I watched gay porn online. Then I started chatting. Then having hot phone sex. Then I met someone online and for a year I have been texting, emailing, exchanging cock pics. I love gay porn, bareback porn, hardcore gay sex. I am so addicted to it. I get off really well and love watching cock. Problem is I am confused. Why now in my older years feel this way. Is it just cause its porn?? The thrill? Or am I actually gay and have not realized it yet. Please help

[posterpicture]

It seems very gay for me. But everything is possible. How's about you find a guy to help you clarify your fantasy?

[musicman2229]

This may be sort of out-of-the-box, theoretical nonsense, but this isn't the first post like this I have seen on this site, and it has me wondering about the whole idea of labeling someone as 'gay' or 'straight'. If someone can watch gay porn, exchange suggestive photos with other men, have phone sex, and still question whether or not they may be 'gay' or 'bi', then isn't the label superfluous? I mean, I'm not addicted to gay porn, I don't have phone sex or get texts from other men with pictures of their dicks, and I'm 100% positive that I'm gay. The difference is, I label myself as gay, and you label yourself as curious. Obviously we have the Kinsey scale and most of us fall somewhere within the extremes on it. The Kinsey scale quantifies where we as a gay community are trying to qualify (or at least that's how it seems to me. Someone with a relevant college degree or at least a better understanding of it feel free to correct me). My point is, they're just labels. There is such a wide spread of sexual orientations that trying to fit everyone neatly into one of four categories is arbitrary and meaningless. If Hugh Heffner decided to label himself as gay despite the hundreds of women he has had sex with over the years, who really cares? Or, conversely, if you decide to label yourself as curious even though you have pursued sexual activities with other men, it really doesn't change anything. As long as you don't hurt anyone, do what you enjoy, and forget the labels. So to answer your question, IMHO, watching lots of gay porn only makes you gay if you want it to.

[Gabbyboy]

i guess youve been gay and you just didnt know it..

[writerken]

I wouldn't say so. Seeing people have sex gets most going.

[ZackT]

I think most people would consider that "gay".

But like musicman said, it's all just a label you decide to identify yourself with.

If you like seeing cock and talking about it, maybe you should explore more intimate experiences with it.

Here's a question, what sort of phone sex are you having? I'm assuming by your post that it's gay phone sex, but it wasn't specified, so I dunno for sure.

If that's the case, maybe you should really think about actually trying it.

IF that's going too far for you though, then that's fine. This sort of thing is all about what feels right for you, so if you're only ok with phone/cyber/porn, then just leave it at that. Nothin to be ashamed of no matter which way it goes, though.

[ochocinco720]

i would say that you are at the least curious. And that the only real way is to try out your "fantasies" for real. that way it will be an actual experience thing ya know?

[Braz]

To me that sounds like your bisexual coz you have a girlfriend if you still like females that is otherwise if you dont then i would say your gay if you enjoy watching gay porn and stuff.

[marshlander]

As Michael always said ...

"If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck ... "

... the only real way is to try out your "fantasies" for real. that way it will be an actual experience thing ya know?

As one who "tried out fantasies for real" many times over many years I still did not recognise myself as gay until I was forced to confront a lot more convincing evidence when I was about forty years old.

We all have our own paths to follow.

[SleepTalker]

I would say you are bisexual and just didnt notice it. You have a girlfriend so youre obviously attracted to girls and you like gay porn etc. I agree with everyone else. Maybe you should experiment a bit and see where it goes.