Is watching gay porn and jerking to it gay or not?

[azulai]

I'm confused on whether or not you currently have a gf. Can you be a little more clear on that.

Maybe you need to take porn out of the equation? Stop it and all your other above mentioned "activities" for a while and let your mind rest. When you need to jerk off, don't go for visual stimuli.

Who do you fantasize about? Who do you want to touch or be touched by? Who do you want to kiss or kissing on you? If you want a warm body snuggled next to you, who do you want? Do you notice hot guys at work or when you are out? Who are you checking out?

Being gay isn't about anal sex or the money shot in porn.

[ardus]

I'm confused on whether or not you currently have a gf. Can you be a little more clear on that.

Maybe you need to take porn out of the equation? Stop it and all your other above mentioned "activities" for a while and let your mind rest. When you need to jerk off, don't go for visual stimuli.

Who do you fantasize about? Who do you want to touch or be touched by? Who do you want to kiss or kissing on you? If you want a warm body snuggled next to you, who do you want? Do you notice hot guys at work or when you are out? Who are you checking out?

Being gay isn't about anal sex or the money shot in porn.

I think Azulai is on the right track here. It's not just about what excites you sexually, as has been said before watching people have sex is exciting for almost anyone, but the deeper issues, that's where I think you can really determine what you are after in life. I knew for years that I found men sexually attractive, but it wasn't until I met a man that I could see myself with, that I could actually really fully accept that I'm not going through a phase. Hopefully some of this helps.
Richard

[jbrowder24]

The act of watching gay porn - not just out of curiousity, but for arousal's sake and the other things you've said you've done - it's all pretty gay. That doesn't make you gay though, but perhaps bi or bi-curious. I agree with what others have said about labels etc. Do you still watch straight porn too? Does it arouse you in the same way? What if you looked at non-porn pics of a hot girl and a hot guy - how do your feelings/attractions looking at those pics compare? It could be the thrill of the unknown, or it could be something more... it's very difficult to accept our true nature sometimes when society has done such a good job of teaching us how to repress it. But so many people have different kinks etc too, that it makes the confusion all the more harder to pinpoint sometimes. This is a great place to ask questions though. Good luck.

[Yuki]

Labels are what we make them.

[Gabbyboy]

try this one too. try being with a guy if you see his penis and drooled and feel like puttng it inside your mouth then my friend you are gay. (IMO)

[BENDERBOY]

Yes your a Benderboy too....... no but seriously i haven't a clue,

[DarkDaisuke]

Ive seen this happen with a friend and he turned out to be gay. Im sorry but I disagree with musicman in the its only labels department. Its what you identify as; I mean love is love but some guys find it easier to deal with if they have labels :/.

Anyways with my friend, his girlfriend asked me if it was normal and I honestly said no not really. It could be a fetish but I told her I think he might be bi and he turned out to be fully gay so yeah... Its really up to what you get turned on by though. You can like guys sexually but want women emotionally. I mean he wanted to be bi really badly but he wasn't and I'm so glad he came to terms with being gay.

[Marvinteck]

I agree with what the others have posted.

I know for me personally my habit of watching gay porn made me confront my same sex attraction. In my teens I had a 2 year fling with my best friend. I enjoyed it but came from a conservative background. I ran back into the closet when I was 18 and didnt come back out till I was 28. I knew I had same sex desires but I was in denial for a long time. I wanted to live the hetrosexual lifestyle with a wife and kids. That was what was expected of me by my family. That goal has never been fulfilled since I suffer from social anxiety and talking to other people scares the hell out of me. Right around 18 months ago I was bored with straight porn so I started looking at gay porn more and more. Pretty soon all I was watching was gay porn. Last summer a light bulb went off and I was forced to confront the fact that I am attracted to the same sex as well as the opposite sex. I was done running from myself so I came out of the closet as bisexual last fall.

My best advice to you would be explore your sexuality and see where it takes you. If I had to slap a label on you I would call you at least bi curious. Good luckmile:

[drewnyc7]

well yes i do drool when i see large penis and vision putting it inside my mouth.. ive fantasized a lot bout it. when someone mentions the word gay i get aroused..

[Gabbyboy]

well yes i do drool when i see large penis and vision putting it inside my mouth.. ive fantasized a lot bout it. when someone mentions the word gay i get aroused..

there you go, its time to change your orientation to a single gay man