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08-16-2011, 04:26 AM

What would you do if ...

1. *your bf deprives you of affection, intimacy and sex in your relationship?

2. *the sex life between the two of you happens every 60 days?

3. your bf checks out guys on Grindr, cruise other hot young gay guys at gay bars and surf gay porn instead of nurturing you emotionally and physically?

4. your bf's friends humiliated you in front of his friends behind your back, even though you never did anything bad to his friends?

5. your bf didn't stand up for you when his friends stomped all over you?

6. his sleazy best friend keeps trying to break off you and your bf?

I asked these questions very often in the last 2 weeks

08-16-2011, 09:54 AM

zet1972 Wrote:What would you do if ...

1. *your bf deprives you of affection, intimacy and sex in your relationship?

2. *[COLOR="SeaGreen"]the sex life between the two of you happens every 60 days?
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3. your bf checks out guys on Grindr, cruise other hot young gay guys at gay bars and surf gay porn instead of nurturing you emotionally and physically?

4. your bf's friends humiliated you in front of his friends behind your back, even though you never did anything back to his friends?

5. [COLOR="Red"]your bf didn't stand up for you when his friends stompped all over you?
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6. [COLOR="SeaGreen"]his sleazy best friend keeps trying to break off you and your bf?
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I asked these questions very often in the last 2 weeks

Very easy.... Kick him out

the red color marks what for me is important to end a relationship.... Green means not a big problem....

08-16-2011, 10:24 AM

Get rid of him, you are being abused.

08-16-2011, 01:20 PM

I agree with all of the above comments, looking at your original questions makes me think that you already know the answer. he doesn't seem to respect you and you don't owe him respect in return. Move on . Good Luck. Wink

08-16-2011, 10:40 PM

I'd leave. What would you do?

08-17-2011, 12:25 AM

I suppose you are thinking about Marshlander's suggestion quite strongly. How are you set up to go along with that advice?

mrk2010 · 08-17-2011, 12:31 AM

I would consider other options. Buddy you need to find someone who will treat you well and respect you and your needs. Maybe talk to your partner first and give him a chance, if he is totally unreceptive consider leaving him.

08-17-2011, 12:36 AM

Thanks for giving me advice.

I guess I finally woke up after killing time with a 46-year-old circuit party boy for the last 19 months. He has no cohabitation plan with me ever. I told him I didn't know how to trust him anymore. I wasn't sure how I could be loyal to him if he continued to allow his friends to humiliate me. I am done.

08-17-2011, 01:54 AM

mrk2010 Wrote:I would consider other options. Buddy you need to find someone who will treat you well and respect you and your needs. Maybe talk to your partner first and give him a chance, if he is totally unreceptive consider leaving him.

normally I would give the same advice ... I Ã‚Â´m not a friend of seperations and much to fast divorces... but in this case it seems for me, that his partner has no respect ... so what happens if both come into a hard situation.. maybe illness or whatever....

08-17-2011, 02:11 AM

fenris Wrote:normally I would give the same advice ... I Ã‚Â´m not a friend of seperations and much to fast divorces... but in this case it seems for me, that his partner has no respect ... so what happens if both come into a hard situation.. maybe illness or whatever....

I felt exactly the same way, in fact, the reply that I was originally going to post was going to suggest that, but when I re-read the OP I changed my mind...I doubt anything would come from a heart to heart, except heart-break.